First of all, I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. Second of all, do not blame yourself. You are absolutely not stupid. He put in an act and it was a long one. Society also doesn’t teach us to look for these things.
Please don’t take my next question as victim blaming, I’m trying to learn for myself/others and maybe help you identify a healthy partner later when you’re ready: did he ever do genuinely nice things for other people when it cost him money/time/sacrifice? Did he do nice things when he wouldn’t be recognized or rewarded for them? Did he go out of his way to help people? I honestly don’t know what else you could have noticed to uncover this. People say notice if he’s nice to the waiter/staff…etc. But if he’s smart enough, he’ll put in act with them too. I always say to look for “green flags” instead of neutral/red flags because it will be hard for people to do “green flags” for months and years. In other words, instead of avoiding “violent/cruel/angry” men, watch out for actively “kind/gentle/forgiving”…etc. But I guess nothing is a guarantee. ?
Please stay safe and move if you can. Having him know where you live is not ideal. Change your name too. Good luck OP ❤️
Don’t confront. Just get your things and ghost him. He could care less that he’s in a relationship. If he and his friends reach out harassing you then post your evidence. Explain here is the answer they are looking for.
The thing is that anxiety can generally be managed if you really want to. I'm not saying it's easy but her attitude seems to imply she isn't optimistic about it. If my partner had any kind of health issue I'd expect them to be doing everything possible to deal with it. I might leave a diabetic who refused to manage their diet too.
First of all, I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. Second of all, do not blame yourself. You are absolutely not stupid. He put in an act and it was a long one. Society also doesn’t teach us to look for these things.
Please don’t take my next question as victim blaming, I’m trying to learn for myself/others and maybe help you identify a healthy partner later when you’re ready: did he ever do genuinely nice things for other people when it cost him money/time/sacrifice? Did he do nice things when he wouldn’t be recognized or rewarded for them? Did he go out of his way to help people? I honestly don’t know what else you could have noticed to uncover this. People say notice if he’s nice to the waiter/staff…etc. But if he’s smart enough, he’ll put in act with them too. I always say to look for “green flags” instead of neutral/red flags because it will be hard for people to do “green flags” for months and years. In other words, instead of avoiding “violent/cruel/angry” men, watch out for actively “kind/gentle/forgiving”…etc. But I guess nothing is a guarantee. ?
Please stay safe and move if you can. Having him know where you live is not ideal. Change your name too. Good luck OP ❤️
Yes. If you were teens it would be fine but he is a grown man and should have given you a small inexpensive gift.
Don’t confront. Just get your things and ghost him. He could care less that he’s in a relationship. If he and his friends reach out harassing you then post your evidence. Explain here is the answer they are looking for.
A dude wrote this. A sad, sad, dude.
The thing is that anxiety can generally be managed if you really want to. I'm not saying it's easy but her attitude seems to imply she isn't optimistic about it. If my partner had any kind of health issue I'd expect them to be doing everything possible to deal with it. I might leave a diabetic who refused to manage their diet too.
How long have you been dating even?
Round a year and a half
And yeah, she’s financially irresponsible, I’ve talked to her about this a million times, but she just spends her money on nonsense all the time