You can maybe give short replies like “cool bro” or just give him thumbs up emojis but don't continue the conversation. You could accept his request and just not follow him back. Give him the cold shoulder enough and he should get the idea.
OP wife started talking about open marriage as per se 6 months ago.
6 months ago She comes up with the idea to open our marriage
I'm seeing this right, right?
Then OP says:
We tried it’s never worked out until I met my girlfriend now, who in the beginning was open to the idea of all three but now just wants to date me this was totally her choice.
This implies that OP met his girlfriend who wants to date him only in the period of those 6 months, right?
I mean, he even says this:
When I met my girlfriend my wife and I were NEVER spending time together, she gets off work at five and then goes and scrolls on her phone until bedtime. I work nights she doesn’t text me or even want to talk on the phone while I’m at work. She was never interested in spending time with me until my girlfriend started living with us.
Again, all this in less than 6 months, mkay?
And then I asked about when exactly OP met his girlfriend. An innocent question, yep?
Well, here's the answer (two of them):
I met her about 2 years ago through a mutual friend
But we didn’t start talking until July 2023
Don't mind this hello from the future (it's clearly 2022).
Bruh met this chick 2 years ago so…
Look, even if it's July 2022, it's still…8 months at least, no?
Come on, math is not mathing itself in this post.
Do you see where I'm going?
My man can't keep his story straight.
So, either he's a cheater and his wife is just defeated.
Sounds like he was with you bc he thought, with his weight, he could not do better. He got skinnier, so he went instantly to find other women – something he ALWAYS wanted to do, but was too self-conscious to do. So it's not that he went from a committed 6-year relationship to duping you and sleeping around – he always wanted this, but he stuck around bc he throught he could not do better. Now he thinks he can, that he is out of your league and can get the babes that used to be out of his league – the thing he wanted all along.
But he wants you as a backup plan anyway, just in case. He wants you on the hook.
The man is trash. I'm so sorry! You did not deserve this. Block him on everything, do not see him again. He is not worth it.
Completely normal mate. Going in for the first kiss is scary for everyone. You just have to “feel the fear and do it anyway”.
Some girls just won't make the first move as they see it as the guys job. As long as you're sure she wants you to, just go for it. Start with a gentle kiss on the lips. don
It really is up to you. I’d ignore what your friend the therapist says, because it’s simply an opinion that many others would disagree with. You sound like you’re over this relationship, tbh, and maybe this is the reason/excuse you need to finally leave.
So you were 17 when you started dating a 26 year old man? He’s a predator. A normal 26 year old man doesn’t have a lot in common with a high school senior. He’s happy to live! off you his whole life. I bet your responsible for all his emotional needs too? Dump his old ass.
If you head over to r/agegaps, you'll find that many people in age gap relationships crave the fatherly mentor aspect of this kind of relationship.
Personally, I'm 19 years younger than my husband and if he ever acted like a mentor to me, I'd run screaming for the hills. I felt physically ill while watching the last few episodes of Longmire because ewww.
Leave her at once, nobody should be dating a narcissist at all
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This is why it’s better to end things after an affair.
You can maybe give short replies like “cool bro” or just give him thumbs up emojis but don't continue the conversation. You could accept his request and just not follow him back. Give him the cold shoulder enough and he should get the idea.
Okay, okay, don't mind me.
I'm doing maths here.
OP wife started talking about open marriage as per se 6 months ago.
6 months ago She comes up with the idea to open our marriage
I'm seeing this right, right?
Then OP says:
We tried it’s never worked out until I met my girlfriend now, who in the beginning was open to the idea of all three but now just wants to date me this was totally her choice.
This implies that OP met his girlfriend who wants to date him only in the period of those 6 months, right?
I mean, he even says this:
When I met my girlfriend my wife and I were NEVER spending time together, she gets off work at five and then goes and scrolls on her phone until bedtime. I work nights she doesn’t text me or even want to talk on the phone while I’m at work. She was never interested in spending time with me until my girlfriend started living with us.
Again, all this in less than 6 months, mkay?
And then I asked about when exactly OP met his girlfriend. An innocent question, yep?
Well, here's the answer (two of them):
I met her about 2 years ago through a mutual friend
But we didn’t start talking until July 2023
Don't mind this hello from the future (it's clearly 2022).
Bruh met this chick 2 years ago so…
Look, even if it's July 2022, it's still…8 months at least, no?
Come on, math is not mathing itself in this post.
Do you see where I'm going?
My man can't keep his story straight.
So, either he's a cheater and his wife is just defeated.
Ooooorrrr… someone is lying.
Sounds like he was with you bc he thought, with his weight, he could not do better. He got skinnier, so he went instantly to find other women – something he ALWAYS wanted to do, but was too self-conscious to do. So it's not that he went from a committed 6-year relationship to duping you and sleeping around – he always wanted this, but he stuck around bc he throught he could not do better. Now he thinks he can, that he is out of your league and can get the babes that used to be out of his league – the thing he wanted all along.
But he wants you as a backup plan anyway, just in case. He wants you on the hook.
The man is trash. I'm so sorry! You did not deserve this. Block him on everything, do not see him again. He is not worth it.
Completely normal mate. Going in for the first kiss is scary for everyone. You just have to “feel the fear and do it anyway”.
Some girls just won't make the first move as they see it as the guys job. As long as you're sure she wants you to, just go for it. Start with a gentle kiss on the lips. don
It really is up to you. I’d ignore what your friend the therapist says, because it’s simply an opinion that many others would disagree with. You sound like you’re over this relationship, tbh, and maybe this is the reason/excuse you need to finally leave.
So you were 17 when you started dating a 26 year old man? He’s a predator. A normal 26 year old man doesn’t have a lot in common with a high school senior. He’s happy to live! off you his whole life. I bet your responsible for all his emotional needs too? Dump his old ass.
If you head over to r/agegaps, you'll find that many people in age gap relationships crave the fatherly mentor aspect of this kind of relationship.
Personally, I'm 19 years younger than my husband and if he ever acted like a mentor to me, I'd run screaming for the hills. I felt physically ill while watching the last few episodes of Longmire because ewww.