just knew that I’d personally regret it, if it wasn’t with the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with
I understand where you're coming from, but what happens if you and your fiancé aren't sexually compatible after marriage and end up being unhappy?
Porn is an addiction that millions of people suffer from, and I know that shame tends to result in the opposite of the desired effect. I love him, but I don’t want to imagine him getting sexual satisfaction out of some random girl he’s lusting after on the internet. I understand men’s sex drives can be a lot different from women’s,
Men and women masturbate and watch porn. Your fiancé clearly has a decent sex drive, and not being able to do much with you means he has to outlive his drive elsewhere.
He assures me that this will only last until we’re married, but that doesn’t change how it hurts me. Kind and considerate advise that doesn’t ring, “what he’s doing is natural,” would mean a lot to me. Thanks in advance.
Just because you will be having sex doesn't mean that he won't watch porn anymore….for lots of couples, sex is part of their masturbation routine or their sex life as a couple.
I know he feels guilty, and I keep trying to keep that at the forefront of my mind, but I can’t help feeling like an outsider, or that he’s cheating on me by doing this.
Tbh…I think you should postpone the wedding, and get some individual and couple's counseling (non-religious, sex-positive) and make sure you get on the same page.
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So what was her excuse/justication for lying to you?
You're 19. You can literally date anyone. Move on and let her go.
What an enormous red flag.
just knew that I’d personally regret it, if it wasn’t with the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with
I understand where you're coming from, but what happens if you and your fiancé aren't sexually compatible after marriage and end up being unhappy?
Porn is an addiction that millions of people suffer from, and I know that shame tends to result in the opposite of the desired effect. I love him, but I don’t want to imagine him getting sexual satisfaction out of some random girl he’s lusting after on the internet. I understand men’s sex drives can be a lot different from women’s,
Men and women masturbate and watch porn. Your fiancé clearly has a decent sex drive, and not being able to do much with you means he has to outlive his drive elsewhere.
He assures me that this will only last until we’re married, but that doesn’t change how it hurts me. Kind and considerate advise that doesn’t ring, “what he’s doing is natural,” would mean a lot to me. Thanks in advance.
Just because you will be having sex doesn't mean that he won't watch porn anymore….for lots of couples, sex is part of their masturbation routine or their sex life as a couple.
I know he feels guilty, and I keep trying to keep that at the forefront of my mind, but I can’t help feeling like an outsider, or that he’s cheating on me by doing this.
Tbh…I think you should postpone the wedding, and get some individual and couple's counseling (non-religious, sex-positive) and make sure you get on the same page.
Yeah he's sure gonna show her when he doesn't match with anyone whilst she's getting right-swiped into oblivion! Lmao.