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Evidently you and he have incompatible relationship styles.
It is my contention that everyone is on a scale from closed to open. If a person is in the middle, they can play along with what society expects, for the sake of family.
The norm is to be closed, so he played closed.
Now I presume the kids are grown? So there isn’t a compelling reason to be closed, and the lack of chaos, variety and group intimacy that he has always craved is causing resentment.
Whereas your natural level is closed only. Forcing you to do anything open would cause resentment in you.
I know couples whose household relationship has survived because they each take up exclusive sex with other partners instead of with each other. You might find a single guy to get close to, and break off sex with your partner.
Chances are this will not work in the long run, but worth negotiating.
NB: For that thing he said after you and he had sex: What an ass thing to say! Likewise the blindness that he can’t see that you are in the position of that other woman. I can only offer that he’s not thinking straight, but geez.
Is there a difference? Most of these guys have dead bedrooms, death grip syndrome, and are no longer emotionally available. They find masturbation easier than sex.
What's the wife's role in the marriage? Cook, have children, pay half the mortgage? Really, it's to be a cover for all the debauchery.
I hope you will tell someone. I know when I was emotionally abused I felt ashamed/afraid to tell anyone and I think a lot of it was because I knew they would tell me I shouldn't stay and that they would have bad feelings about the way he had treated me, which felt like deciding to tell someone was like deciding to end the relationship forever.
Really, you can tell them and they will love you even if they are upset with how he has behaved. It's SO important that you have people you know, who love you and only want the best for you to talk to. They will have a perspective that you're missing and you will give their perspective more weight than you would an internet stranger because they know you.
You deserve love and support, you don't have to decide what your plan is right this moment but I hope you will reach out to someone you love and trust them with the truth.
to sign up for Tinder and Bumble and talk to people
Bro, you clearly want the relationship to end lol. You know what Tinder is, right? Just own up to your feelings. You want to break up. You want to online on your own. You don't want her around you anymore.
These are valid feelings that you're allowed to feel and act on. Either wait until your lease is about to end, or just rip the bandaid off now and tell her you're moving out ASAP (or if she wants to move out, she can).
I mean as far as I’m aware this just started happening within the last 2-3 months, I was first made aware by my sister but I blew it off as her just needing to get stuff of her chest cause for a week or 2 I did get lazy about doing the dishes but I overheard her talking to my sister in law about how she thinks I’m controlling when I do everything she wants, and whenever we do stuff she is always on her phone wether we are watching a movie, in the car, or even at dinner she is on her phone 24/7the only time I’ve ever had a problem with her doing something is when she would go to these bonfires when we first started dating and her ex was always at these fires
She has already proven that she can cheat, lie and hide things like a pro. Almost like she has done this before. If you stay, she will know she can rinse and repeat and won't have any consequences because no matter what, you choose to stay.
This is NOT a you problem. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean he had claim to your body at his convenience.
I’d treat him like anyone else trying to sexually assault me. Elbows, knees, feet—I’d be treating him like a goddamned rapist while I worked with an attorney to make an exit plan.
I have been assaulted and raped. I’ve done all the therapy. Not wanting someone to grope you has nothing to do with trauma in my opinion.
Evidently you and he have incompatible relationship styles.
It is my contention that everyone is on a scale from closed to open. If a person is in the middle, they can play along with what society expects, for the sake of family.
The norm is to be closed, so he played closed.
Now I presume the kids are grown? So there isn’t a compelling reason to be closed, and the lack of chaos, variety and group intimacy that he has always craved is causing resentment.
Whereas your natural level is closed only. Forcing you to do anything open would cause resentment in you.
I know couples whose household relationship has survived because they each take up exclusive sex with other partners instead of with each other. You might find a single guy to get close to, and break off sex with your partner.
Chances are this will not work in the long run, but worth negotiating.
NB: For that thing he said after you and he had sex: What an ass thing to say! Likewise the blindness that he can’t see that you are in the position of that other woman. I can only offer that he’s not thinking straight, but geez.
I think the moment she finds someone better than you, she will sleep with them and then break up with you.
Run. You’re trying to fix a problem you can’t fix.
They haven't said that a single time and this conflict has been going on forever. You must not have seen all of the other posts.
Only you can know if long distance will work for you – it does for some people, not for others. If you are the former I'd say go for girl 2.
Is there a difference? Most of these guys have dead bedrooms, death grip syndrome, and are no longer emotionally available. They find masturbation easier than sex.
What's the wife's role in the marriage? Cook, have children, pay half the mortgage? Really, it's to be a cover for all the debauchery.
I hope you will tell someone. I know when I was emotionally abused I felt ashamed/afraid to tell anyone and I think a lot of it was because I knew they would tell me I shouldn't stay and that they would have bad feelings about the way he had treated me, which felt like deciding to tell someone was like deciding to end the relationship forever.
Really, you can tell them and they will love you even if they are upset with how he has behaved. It's SO important that you have people you know, who love you and only want the best for you to talk to. They will have a perspective that you're missing and you will give their perspective more weight than you would an internet stranger because they know you.
You deserve love and support, you don't have to decide what your plan is right this moment but I hope you will reach out to someone you love and trust them with the truth.
to sign up for Tinder and Bumble and talk to people
Bro, you clearly want the relationship to end lol. You know what Tinder is, right? Just own up to your feelings. You want to break up. You want to online on your own. You don't want her around you anymore.
These are valid feelings that you're allowed to feel and act on. Either wait until your lease is about to end, or just rip the bandaid off now and tell her you're moving out ASAP (or if she wants to move out, she can).
Very true, thanks… this makes me feel a lot better. He didn’t seem to think there were any hidden motivations, that they are “just cookies”
I mean as far as I’m aware this just started happening within the last 2-3 months, I was first made aware by my sister but I blew it off as her just needing to get stuff of her chest cause for a week or 2 I did get lazy about doing the dishes but I overheard her talking to my sister in law about how she thinks I’m controlling when I do everything she wants, and whenever we do stuff she is always on her phone wether we are watching a movie, in the car, or even at dinner she is on her phone 24/7the only time I’ve ever had a problem with her doing something is when she would go to these bonfires when we first started dating and her ex was always at these fires
You’re abusing that dog, too. You are actively participating in animal abuse. You’re choosing this every single day.
How did you find out, and why is it your business to obtain details? Why do you even want them?
She has already proven that she can cheat, lie and hide things like a pro. Almost like she has done this before. If you stay, she will know she can rinse and repeat and won't have any consequences because no matter what, you choose to stay.
Any advices?
This is NOT a you problem. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean he had claim to your body at his convenience.
I’d treat him like anyone else trying to sexually assault me. Elbows, knees, feet—I’d be treating him like a goddamned rapist while I worked with an attorney to make an exit plan.
I have been assaulted and raped. I’ve done all the therapy. Not wanting someone to grope you has nothing to do with trauma in my opinion.
McDonald’s? The usual Three meals might help?