I am the ex wife who got screwed once my husband started dating someone…
Someone needs to tell your girlfriend that uts literally none of her business. That's the risk you take getting involved with a married dude who hasn't closed out his situation yet.
Don't screw over your wife. Read the laws and you will see that is not fine.
Next time you need to be all the way closed out before getting at all serious with someone new. Luke hello of course this would go this way.
Risk-benefit analysis init – the potential of having a positive outcome (ie. best sex of my life, finding my soulmate etc.) is worth the risk. 'Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all'
I also want to know what I should expect when I start dating and not be disappointed.
I think you have to accept that:
Everyone is different! You can't predict what will happen when you start dating. You have to dive into the experience and find out, but you can do that with your own boundaries, values and preferences. Deciding you don't want to have sex until you're in an exclusive relationship because emotional intimacy is important to you is absolutely fine. Doing that because you're scared of rejection based on your sexual performance is not going to lead you to have happy or healthy relationships. From some of your comments I think that the latter is at play here and you need to address that. You probably will be disappointed! You can't plan out your dating journey so that you never experience disappointment, embarrassment, rejection or heartbreak. If you're extremely lucky you may avoid those things, but you'd be in the minority. Feeling confident and comfortable in yourself will help you be more resilient when disappointment comes around, and you can move on to better things.
Yeah I’m pretty sure what this girl did is illegal. Especially if the boyfriend doesn’t know. And if he does, and he was ok with it, then I think she has her answer on if this is the right place to be.
Thank you for the feedback. We live around 3 hours away from each other so not that long distance. You know when you meet someone and you instantly click? That's how I feel about him, but I don't know how he feels about me which makes me nervous. I don't know how to describe how I feel, but I want all my first to be with him.
Thanks lol. My boyfriend and I were just talking about the double standard here. If OP was a fit girl I feel like the comments here would be a lot different.
Obesity rates in the US are sky high dude. Mentioning that alone is usually enough to get people riled up but look at us compared to other developed countries. As a woman with chronic health issues that has trouble losing weight, I get it. I’m fucking disabled. It’s not easy. It’s likely she has some underlying issues that need to be dealt with. But like OP said, there is no indication that changes will be made and her weight will probably keep going up. It’s a lot easier to lose 30lbs than it is to lose 100lbs. It’s better to acknowledge the problem and look for a solution before things become unmanageable. Obesity is still a serious health problem even if there are underlying physical/mental health issues. It’s great to have a supportive partner and it’s totally fine to have a little pudge! Im not saying people need to be skinny and in perfect shape! But if it’s a lot more than just a little pudge and it’s affecting long term physical health, it no longer has to do with just looks.
It is totally valid to want your partner to care about their physical health. It’s also valid to be turned off by the fact that your partner is no longer making an effort to take care of their body. We are adults and should be encouraging one another to be healthy. If I wasn’t taking good care of my body, I would want my partner to call me out and help me figure out a solution. Like shit, I want to on-line a long happy life with the man I’m going to marry. People are really out here saying it doesn’t matter “because they love their partner forever no matter what.” It’s a lot easier to love a partner that’s ALIVE, ya know?
You said 3 times (once in the title and twice in the body) that they started dating when they were 18/23.
Regardless, this is all ridiculous. You are confident that he was verbally and emotionally abusive – what other info do you need?
The relationship isn't healthy
Always thought that was assault.
That's classed as assault, have his ass arrested and chuck him out or move out while dumping his ass.
I am the ex wife who got screwed once my husband started dating someone…
Someone needs to tell your girlfriend that uts literally none of her business. That's the risk you take getting involved with a married dude who hasn't closed out his situation yet.
Don't screw over your wife. Read the laws and you will see that is not fine.
Next time you need to be all the way closed out before getting at all serious with someone new. Luke hello of course this would go this way.
And you still want to meet him?
why put yourself through that?
Risk-benefit analysis init – the potential of having a positive outcome (ie. best sex of my life, finding my soulmate etc.) is worth the risk. 'Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all'
I also want to know what I should expect when I start dating and not be disappointed.
I think you have to accept that:
Everyone is different! You can't predict what will happen when you start dating. You have to dive into the experience and find out, but you can do that with your own boundaries, values and preferences. Deciding you don't want to have sex until you're in an exclusive relationship because emotional intimacy is important to you is absolutely fine. Doing that because you're scared of rejection based on your sexual performance is not going to lead you to have happy or healthy relationships. From some of your comments I think that the latter is at play here and you need to address that. You probably will be disappointed! You can't plan out your dating journey so that you never experience disappointment, embarrassment, rejection or heartbreak. If you're extremely lucky you may avoid those things, but you'd be in the minority. Feeling confident and comfortable in yourself will help you be more resilient when disappointment comes around, and you can move on to better things.
Yeah I’m pretty sure what this girl did is illegal. Especially if the boyfriend doesn’t know. And if he does, and he was ok with it, then I think she has her answer on if this is the right place to be.
May I ask how he acts in the presence of this person? And how that behavior makes you feel?
There are is another post or two on a similar vein.
I have to ask. Are you a stripper?
Thank you for the feedback. We live around 3 hours away from each other so not that long distance. You know when you meet someone and you instantly click? That's how I feel about him, but I don't know how he feels about me which makes me nervous. I don't know how to describe how I feel, but I want all my first to be with him.
Being with your bf is a wrong decision. I mean, he talks to you terribly, that is not normal in a healthy relationship.
Thanks lol. My boyfriend and I were just talking about the double standard here. If OP was a fit girl I feel like the comments here would be a lot different.
Obesity rates in the US are sky high dude. Mentioning that alone is usually enough to get people riled up but look at us compared to other developed countries. As a woman with chronic health issues that has trouble losing weight, I get it. I’m fucking disabled. It’s not easy. It’s likely she has some underlying issues that need to be dealt with. But like OP said, there is no indication that changes will be made and her weight will probably keep going up. It’s a lot easier to lose 30lbs than it is to lose 100lbs. It’s better to acknowledge the problem and look for a solution before things become unmanageable. Obesity is still a serious health problem even if there are underlying physical/mental health issues. It’s great to have a supportive partner and it’s totally fine to have a little pudge! Im not saying people need to be skinny and in perfect shape! But if it’s a lot more than just a little pudge and it’s affecting long term physical health, it no longer has to do with just looks.
It is totally valid to want your partner to care about their physical health. It’s also valid to be turned off by the fact that your partner is no longer making an effort to take care of their body. We are adults and should be encouraging one another to be healthy. If I wasn’t taking good care of my body, I would want my partner to call me out and help me figure out a solution. Like shit, I want to on-line a long happy life with the man I’m going to marry. People are really out here saying it doesn’t matter “because they love their partner forever no matter what.” It’s a lot easier to love a partner that’s ALIVE, ya know?