The post is about how OP and her bf aren't allowed to hangout with the opposite sex alone because apparently they would cheat or the “public” might think that they are cheating.
And then you commented that it's good to respect the relationship and that public perception does affect a relationship.
I guess, for me it boils down to, if I was close friends for 6 years with these people, I’d go over ask what the hell is going on before I got mad at my wife. Who knows what is going on here, if real. Maybe neighbor wife cheated and they have fucked up agreement where he gets a pass, maybe they are swingers/poly. Who knows, but the answer isn’t to get mad at your wife for information she is telling you.
How your partner treats other people is a part of your relationship.
It is the stereotypical trope in a movie where everyone sees an individual as a great and wonderful person, until they want to make a dog skin coat, or evict all the elderly and poor from their homes to build new condos.
Yeah – he could be a hit man, peddle drugs, or do a number of other terrible things… but if he treated you like a queen and was a perfect partner in every sense of the term…
Could you ignore that other side of someone? Especially if a lot of it was technically legal?
Oh yeah definitely not. We both REALLY don’t wanna get married until we’re like in our late or mid 20s. But his parents have given subtle hints about wanting me to get married to him right after college. Even so, my boyfriend does not want me to feel pressured because he does not agree with his parents at all and have consistently told them that was not our plan.
The internet is chalk full of horror stories of families who neighbors hardly knew talking about how shocked they were because the family seemed so happy, etc.
Thank you for your answer! For the drinking it really depends on the context : we never drink when were together bc its not a habit I have. When his mom came to visit him, they drank every day one glass of wine bc thats how his mum does (he knows its bad). When hes with his friends, Idk how much he drinks but he used to drink a lot at parties. Since he found out he has anxiety he sais hes trying to drink less : Last time I saw him drinking was at a party Last weekend and he drank 2 cups. But now hes on holiday visiting friends and plans on drinking with them if He wants to, idk how much, but he said less times than usual. Thats what I know. The thing is that his anxiety is really New, and hes considering therapy.
Why a lawyer is necessary. Any alternative endangers the children with an unstable unloving home, and more expense in the long run.
The post is about how OP and her bf aren't allowed to hangout with the opposite sex alone because apparently they would cheat or the “public” might think that they are cheating.
And then you commented that it's good to respect the relationship and that public perception does affect a relationship.
Did I misunderstand anything? Genuinely asking.
I guess, for me it boils down to, if I was close friends for 6 years with these people, I’d go over ask what the hell is going on before I got mad at my wife. Who knows what is going on here, if real. Maybe neighbor wife cheated and they have fucked up agreement where he gets a pass, maybe they are swingers/poly. Who knows, but the answer isn’t to get mad at your wife for information she is telling you.
You are nuts.
How your partner treats other people is a part of your relationship.
It is the stereotypical trope in a movie where everyone sees an individual as a great and wonderful person, until they want to make a dog skin coat, or evict all the elderly and poor from their homes to build new condos.
Yeah – he could be a hit man, peddle drugs, or do a number of other terrible things… but if he treated you like a queen and was a perfect partner in every sense of the term…
Could you ignore that other side of someone? Especially if a lot of it was technically legal?
Oh yeah definitely not. We both REALLY don’t wanna get married until we’re like in our late or mid 20s. But his parents have given subtle hints about wanting me to get married to him right after college. Even so, my boyfriend does not want me to feel pressured because he does not agree with his parents at all and have consistently told them that was not our plan.
The internet is chalk full of horror stories of families who neighbors hardly knew talking about how shocked they were because the family seemed so happy, etc.
Good point, her last boyfriend was obviously a really cool 15 year old.
That’s called gaslighting
Thank you for your answer! For the drinking it really depends on the context : we never drink when were together bc its not a habit I have. When his mom came to visit him, they drank every day one glass of wine bc thats how his mum does (he knows its bad). When hes with his friends, Idk how much he drinks but he used to drink a lot at parties. Since he found out he has anxiety he sais hes trying to drink less : Last time I saw him drinking was at a party Last weekend and he drank 2 cups. But now hes on holiday visiting friends and plans on drinking with them if He wants to, idk how much, but he said less times than usual. Thats what I know. The thing is that his anxiety is really New, and hes considering therapy.