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If you guys have known each other this long AND your husband is not happy with what happened, he needs to go talk to the other husband and ask what’s up. You don’t even know (from what I see in your post) that the husband even had knowledge of this proposition from the wife. You did nothing wrong and did everything right. If your husband would rather blame you than man up and go over there to sort this out, he is being ridiculous.
Ok. Believe it or not, what you're going through is normal. It happens to many people, and naming it, giving it conscious space in your mind is healthy!
1st thing: she's not actually blood related to you, this is an association you've built in your mind. It's nothing to be grossed out or judgemental about. Just accept that this is the place we're currently at. Fighting this reality and trying to force it to be different is what's making you feel like you're going crazy.
Sounds like you had a parentified relationship with your mother and have grief from her death. Losing a parent is horrible, and blaming yourself for her death can be traumatizing. I'd pay attention to healing your grief and blame in this relationship to your late mother.
Caring for your current wife puts you in an emotional space that's reminiscent of your relationship to your mother. That makes sense. You learned a lot of your nurturing and loving in this space. It makes sense that by returning to this space you'd have familiar patterns that you've known and practiced for a long time.
While you work on issues around grief and parentification with your mother, hopefully your wife and work on her depression and you can do what you can to relieve the caretaking role you currently live! in.
A book that should help with building romantic intimacy back with your wife is Esther Perell's Mating in Captivity. Give that a read and be patient with yourself. Her podcast is an excellent resource as well. Engage your therapist on the things you've told us here as well.
Make a list of things she can get you. See how she reacts.
girl… please.
i don’t mean to be harsh but you are living in a fantasy world right now of romantic lies and empty words. you don’t have an excellent understanding of him, because he didn’t give you that opportunity, by being a liar. he isn’t able to “express himself to you without judgement or resentment,” because he clearly isn’t capable of doing that with anyone, because he’s a liar. your “communication” is also not real and definitely not very strong, because he is A LIAR..
you cannot develop this strong, eternally unbreakable bond when the foundation is built completely off lies and deceit. Love is not powerful enough to sustain a one-sided relationship with someone who, in reality, you hardly know, because everything has been built off falsities. of course he is going to claim that it’s just “this one BIG lie,” but this makes everything else between you, quite frankly, meaningless. for the entire relationship, he has likely been two timing the both of you.
again, i don’t mean to be harsh, but step outside of these rose colored glasses for a second to really conceptualize a 30 year old man living with his ex, sleeping together every night and it’s just.. platonic? as they uprooted their entire lives together? i can almost promise you that no grown woman would be staying in a room at their exes sisters house, just to skirt by time in whatever bizarre dynamic he claims they have. they are in a relationship.
as a fellow spiritual romantic, i can understand the sentiment, but none of it means anything at all when there is nothing real, no true substance or authenticity. i know it is difficult to even imagine at this point, but your twin flame, your true match is waiting for you- it just isn’t him.
Why did you choose to date someone from a different country and harder to get to know?
I wouldn't say it was a “decision” to lie exactly, but you're not wrong. I'm really ashamed that I lied and while I do have reasons for it (based on past behaviour) that doesn't make it anywhere near ok.
Ya I'm not reading that, clearly hurt your feelings.
She is not worth it move on. If she cared about you, she wouldn't have that way. Looks like she has issues it's probably better for both of you.
I’m sorry but they are going to come back as a couple either way. This is the opportunity they’ve been waiting for. Save yourself the heartache as we all have these relationships at your age. You’ll look back and wonder why on earth you put up with it. I was the ‘cool girlfriend’ way back when, and it did me no favours, just got me used and made a fool. Take care.
What was the subscription? Is it something you both use? Is he going to let you go hungry?