Also Why do I need to leave him alone? You act like I’m going to tie him up in my basement and never let him live out his potential. He’ll leave me for someone younger eventually. I’m not naïve.
Just because it’s unconventional or frowned upon (because society assumes bad things about older people who like younger people) that’s not my concern. I’m not some predator looking to harm him like certain older bad people do to younger people. That’s yall in society projecting things onto people just because they have seen it happen with bad people. I’m just a human who clicks with another human and it feels great. I’m not preying on anyone. I’m not Harvey Weinstein ffs.
We’re happy period and I’m not hurting him and he’s legal and is respected and cared for. I don’t have to anything just because you’re in your feelings about it because it’s unconventional
Maybe leave other people ALONE who clearly aren’t interested in what you’re trying to get them to do.
I agree. OP is making this a way bigger issue. We have friends like this. One recently bought a vacation house and we haven’t been invited, but In our group of friends it’s more Customary to invite yourself.
Absolutely. It’s been very hot finding a woman who I find attractive AND shares values for the future. I was hoping to get some advice to at least confront this aspect of this relationship and see if it’s something that can be worked on
If you feel that it could be possible that you don’t do enough for him or that you could be selfish – maybe you should think of ways to show him you love him, rather than just thinking you’re a loser and resigning yourself to a divorce.
You need to sit down during a calm time and actually discuss your issues with your sex life. Including issues like; Is he actually interested in fixing them? Why has your sex life drastically reduced? Does he know how unhappy you are? Is he worried about meeting your needs or just his own?
You violated her trust and privacy by going through her phone, but you are complaining about the violation of her talking to her mom? Do you realize how hypocritical that is? Just because you apologized, that doesn’t mean your actions or the hurt they caused disappeared. She still gets to be mad at you for that. The apology is the first step to redemption, not the last.
Also, a textbook early move from abusers is to try to cut someone off from the support of family and friends. You are are a parade of red flags.
he is allowed to, just not lie about it
Also Why do I need to leave him alone? You act like I’m going to tie him up in my basement and never let him live out his potential. He’ll leave me for someone younger eventually. I’m not naïve.
Just because it’s unconventional or frowned upon (because society assumes bad things about older people who like younger people) that’s not my concern. I’m not some predator looking to harm him like certain older bad people do to younger people. That’s yall in society projecting things onto people just because they have seen it happen with bad people. I’m just a human who clicks with another human and it feels great. I’m not preying on anyone. I’m not Harvey Weinstein ffs.
We’re happy period and I’m not hurting him and he’s legal and is respected and cared for. I don’t have to anything just because you’re in your feelings about it because it’s unconventional
Maybe leave other people ALONE who clearly aren’t interested in what you’re trying to get them to do.
Fuck that guy! Have some wine and a cookie or cookies or whatever you want! Fuck that guy!
I agree. OP is making this a way bigger issue. We have friends like this. One recently bought a vacation house and we haven’t been invited, but In our group of friends it’s more Customary to invite yourself.
That sounds amazing honestly!
Wrong question. It's not about you.
You need to help your life partner and mother of your 3 kids to find a hobby.
And failure (or blaming her) is not an option.
If not for her – do it for your kids.
Absolutely. It’s been very hot finding a woman who I find attractive AND shares values for the future. I was hoping to get some advice to at least confront this aspect of this relationship and see if it’s something that can be worked on
If you feel that it could be possible that you don’t do enough for him or that you could be selfish – maybe you should think of ways to show him you love him, rather than just thinking you’re a loser and resigning yourself to a divorce.
I promise im trying lol
You need to sit down during a calm time and actually discuss your issues with your sex life. Including issues like; Is he actually interested in fixing them? Why has your sex life drastically reduced? Does he know how unhappy you are? Is he worried about meeting your needs or just his own?
You violated her trust and privacy by going through her phone, but you are complaining about the violation of her talking to her mom? Do you realize how hypocritical that is? Just because you apologized, that doesn’t mean your actions or the hurt they caused disappeared. She still gets to be mad at you for that. The apology is the first step to redemption, not the last.
Also, a textbook early move from abusers is to try to cut someone off from the support of family and friends. You are are a parade of red flags.