Yeah, he sounds like he might have something like bpd too. He is not good for you, a person like you really benefits from a stable partner, and he sounds like an extremely unstable partner. There are really stable, loving people out there. Also, to me that doesn't sound heartwarming, it sounds manipulative.
From the outside, it sounds like the only reasonable thing for you to do is break up.
Also a thought: do you really love him, or are you scared of the uncertainty when he's not in your life anymore.
Ok let me break it down for you to understand how ignorant that sounds
she is an Asian Woman and already a POC so she doesn't need it?
What does that even mean? Asian don't need tanning because they are ALREADY POC? First, there're a shit tons of skin colour between black and white, they are all POC. Second, tanning doesn't mean someone wants to be black, just no. Same as if a black person (or any POC) wears sunscreens/stay out of sun doesn't mean they want to be white. People have preference on their own appearance, simple as that, stop trying to create problems out of nowhere.
As a “yellow” Asian Im absolutely sick of this. I can be naturally pale and naturally brown-ish. If we protect our skin from the sun and stay pale we're told to love ourselves and stop trying to be white. If we do the opposite we are accused of black face now? How about stop projection your problems on us?
It poses a problem because your gf is wanting to literally “dress up” and basically play a Black Woman
Alright I'll have to assume you don't know the character. Thing is, yoruichi is literally a dark skin, Japanese, character. She's not a black girl. Absolutely nothing here involves black people, culture, or appropriation. It's a asian girl cosplaying as an asian character.
If your gf was going as herself, without the excessive tan then it'd be fine.
She has tanned skin same as people has dyed hair. It is just their look as a person. If she is excessive, so is everyone walking around with hair dyed, styled, wig, etc
Can you give some examples of when you don’t trust him and what your reaction is? Are you two moving slow or fast? Too me, “too much drama” is actually just too much triggering you due to trauma from your last relationship…that’s nothing you should ever feel ashamed of, but it might be something that’s better for you to heal with on your own, maybe you’re just moving too fast?
How is it dishonest? She said what she is comfortable with , and he said what he is. If she isn't interested that's fine. Honestly he doesn't sound that interested in what she said either.
Fucking hell! He is violent!! You do realize that this is how things escalate to physical abuse, right? What you describe is SO unhealthy and SO dysfunctional. Please get some individual therapy so you can get perspective and the strength to leave him.
but he never made an effort to save in the entirety of our whole relationship because he prefers to live! in the moment.
Living in the moment doesn't have to equate being fiscally irresponsible. If he's not financially responsible now, he'll probably get worse as more expenses pile on. Good luck!
Oh Graham you changed the ending of this post! Now you just need to stop posting.
Yeah, he sounds like he might have something like bpd too. He is not good for you, a person like you really benefits from a stable partner, and he sounds like an extremely unstable partner. There are really stable, loving people out there. Also, to me that doesn't sound heartwarming, it sounds manipulative.
From the outside, it sounds like the only reasonable thing for you to do is break up.
Also a thought: do you really love him, or are you scared of the uncertainty when he's not in your life anymore.
This sounds really hot, sending you some love
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your boyfriend should marry his mommy
Ok let me break it down for you to understand how ignorant that sounds
she is an Asian Woman and already a POC so she doesn't need it?
What does that even mean? Asian don't need tanning because they are ALREADY POC? First, there're a shit tons of skin colour between black and white, they are all POC. Second, tanning doesn't mean someone wants to be black, just no. Same as if a black person (or any POC) wears sunscreens/stay out of sun doesn't mean they want to be white. People have preference on their own appearance, simple as that, stop trying to create problems out of nowhere.
As a “yellow” Asian Im absolutely sick of this. I can be naturally pale and naturally brown-ish. If we protect our skin from the sun and stay pale we're told to love ourselves and stop trying to be white. If we do the opposite we are accused of black face now? How about stop projection your problems on us?
It poses a problem because your gf is wanting to literally “dress up” and basically play a Black Woman
Alright I'll have to assume you don't know the character. Thing is, yoruichi is literally a dark skin, Japanese, character. She's not a black girl. Absolutely nothing here involves black people, culture, or appropriation. It's a asian girl cosplaying as an asian character.
If your gf was going as herself, without the excessive tan then it'd be fine.
She has tanned skin same as people has dyed hair. It is just their look as a person. If she is excessive, so is everyone walking around with hair dyed, styled, wig, etc
Take him at his word since what he is saying makes sense. Then explain to him exactly what you explained to us since that makes sense, too.
Can you give some examples of when you don’t trust him and what your reaction is? Are you two moving slow or fast? Too me, “too much drama” is actually just too much triggering you due to trauma from your last relationship…that’s nothing you should ever feel ashamed of, but it might be something that’s better for you to heal with on your own, maybe you’re just moving too fast?
Made it. Just coming up with rules for the sub now. r/JustNOagegap
How is it dishonest? She said what she is comfortable with , and he said what he is. If she isn't interested that's fine. Honestly he doesn't sound that interested in what she said either.
Because she made it clear she only liked him as a friend hence the friends with benefits.
Lol chicks are just playing dudes without hiding nothing these days & most are buying what they’re saying ?
Fucking hell! He is violent!! You do realize that this is how things escalate to physical abuse, right? What you describe is SO unhealthy and SO dysfunctional. Please get some individual therapy so you can get perspective and the strength to leave him.
but he never made an effort to save in the entirety of our whole relationship because he prefers to live! in the moment.
Living in the moment doesn't have to equate being fiscally irresponsible. If he's not financially responsible now, he'll probably get worse as more expenses pile on. Good luck!
Don’t marry a cheater.