I am in a similar situation. Depressed partner, untreated, I am the only person in his life, fucked up relationship with his family, no real friends and financially dependent on me.
You wrote that you would feel guilty, because you made her move states? In the beginning of your post it seemed that she chose to move?
I also want to break up, but I feel like shit because I am his only person. It‘s nude when you know it‘s not your fault, because there are reasons for a breakup and you tried your best, but really doing it is another story.
Based on your comments, it looks like she's the one who dodged the bullet. You’re the only one paying for the wedding? Fine, it is your money, but it’s also not just your opinion that counts. It’s a partnership. You don’t want a partner, you want a doormat. You’re being controlling, because you think money lets you make all the decisions. You were overriding your fiancé’s feelings over your mother. It has nothing to do with being an entitled brat. But if that’s how you feel, then go date another teenager.
My bf worked until 2am last night in the ER and came home to me with the flu, very sick and miserable. I woke him up multiple times throughout the night coughing and then this morning at 10am he went to the pharmacy dead tired to get me medicine and Gatorade because I ran out of medicine and had a prescription I needed to get picked up. He takes such good care of me all the time, not only when I’m sick. I love him so much.
Really all the OP's post needs is a little sprinkle of gaslighting to make her feel crazy…you know…twisting conversations and making OP think they've said things they didn't, or when OP confronts the guy about something he said, he will make her think that never happened. Or make her think some events never happened…
OP….no decent, mature 33 year old would want to date a teenager. I'm sure you're attractive, and mature for your age….but c'mon. You're in a completely different life stage, have a different timeline, there's a large maturity and life experience gap.
Most adults will consider a 30 year old who goes after a 17/18 year old a predator…..a groomer…. The fact that you suffer from untreated mental health issues just make things a lot worse.
If he’s average sized and you’re very wet, there might not be very much friction.
I am in a similar situation. Depressed partner, untreated, I am the only person in his life, fucked up relationship with his family, no real friends and financially dependent on me.
You wrote that you would feel guilty, because you made her move states? In the beginning of your post it seemed that she chose to move?
I also want to break up, but I feel like shit because I am his only person. It‘s nude when you know it‘s not your fault, because there are reasons for a breakup and you tried your best, but really doing it is another story.
Based on your comments, it looks like she's the one who dodged the bullet. You’re the only one paying for the wedding? Fine, it is your money, but it’s also not just your opinion that counts. It’s a partnership. You don’t want a partner, you want a doormat. You’re being controlling, because you think money lets you make all the decisions. You were overriding your fiancé’s feelings over your mother. It has nothing to do with being an entitled brat. But if that’s how you feel, then go date another teenager.
A keen sense of smell for bullshit is not trust issues, kid.
Yes, I’ve seen him put it on plenty, almost every time. We even check if it’s still on when it feels really good.
Fair. For me the fact he said you don't have the qualities clearly indicates she may do something that doesn't make him want to be with her long term.
Or he's an asshole.
You original comment was more of a reflection of your own bad experiences with men tho. It happens a lot on Reddit
I am adopting this policy immediately! Three days! Three! At-at! ??
This is even more evidence in his favor. Had it been there because he had another girl over, he could have said “my sister said it’s hers”.
In my mind anyone who doesn't approve is probably jealous.
My bf worked until 2am last night in the ER and came home to me with the flu, very sick and miserable. I woke him up multiple times throughout the night coughing and then this morning at 10am he went to the pharmacy dead tired to get me medicine and Gatorade because I ran out of medicine and had a prescription I needed to get picked up. He takes such good care of me all the time, not only when I’m sick. I love him so much.
Maybe it can’t, and that’s ok. It’s probably time for your guys to move on.
It’s a miserable existence to live! in when you’re expected to be loyal and monogamous but your partner has zero interest in return.
Your wife is truly an awful and terrible person.
My husband and I have regular three ways and they are based on trust. What your wife did was disgusting and out of line.
If your wife was having an affair with another man, would you even consider staying with her?
Betrayal is betrayal. My vote is for you leaving her lying ass.
This is so well written.
Really all the OP's post needs is a little sprinkle of gaslighting to make her feel crazy…you know…twisting conversations and making OP think they've said things they didn't, or when OP confronts the guy about something he said, he will make her think that never happened. Or make her think some events never happened…
Been there too….
Found the boyfriend.
I tried thinking of it that way, but the tone of her voice and her non expressive face don’t help. I’m gonna bring it up next time it happens
OP….no decent, mature 33 year old would want to date a teenager. I'm sure you're attractive, and mature for your age….but c'mon. You're in a completely different life stage, have a different timeline, there's a large maturity and life experience gap.
Most adults will consider a 30 year old who goes after a 17/18 year old a predator…..a groomer…. The fact that you suffer from untreated mental health issues just make things a lot worse.