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Date: October 6, 2022
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I usually bring it up when we finally start having sex. If there's something that isn't working for me, I'll talk to them about it, ask them what they're into, and work on making sex enjoyable and better. If we can't get on the same page, then we aren't compatible.
Yes I’m wondering that too. She mentioned that then kind of implies it doesn’t mean anything. OP, what does her being a partner entail?
If she says it again, you say “Excuse me?” with that one raised eyebrow side look of extreme concern. “
You're asking how to not take care of him, when you should be asking how to break up with him. Holy moly, just freaking break up with him. I cannot see a single thing this man contributes to your life.
If you are this wrapped up in his feelings you are also codependent, and need to see that you being with this guy is actually enabling his hobo-ness. You aren't helping him by being his girlfriend.
Break up. Set him free. And go spend your time with people with the same values as you.
He's 40, why can't he drive himself to the train station?
I am very familiar with the family court system.
In your state.
And if they decide they aren’t interested in those, no overnights.
I've been witness in a friends custody case that is very similar. Guess what? Judge ordered visitation and held her in contempt when the 13 and 15 year olds involved refused to go.
No one with the kids’ best interests at heart (since that is what every single ruling in family court is made for)
Bst interest is subjective. Many would argue that regular contact with their father IS in their best interest.
This really could go many ways.
Everyone saying “autism” or “adhd” but I also think you may want to look into ptsd or personality disorders, especially if there is childhood trauma in his past. I researched all of these and then found out it was narcissistic personality disorder, which has a very low rate of change. I’m sorry you’re going through this, and I hope you can find either a solution or a way out of the situation.
I mean in a vacuum yes 5 years of close friendship means something. But clearly a lot of information is missing here. And you seem either unable or unwilling to do introspection on why he wanted to terminate the friendship. I’d guess the friends who still hangout with him know why he did but haven’t told you.
I think this little bit of information is actually a lot more important than you think for context here. And to be clear, I’m speaking from someone who I believe had a similar experience as your boyfriend in my last relationship. So culturally, as men were sort of ingrained with the idea that we are supposed to be the sexually aggressive gender, experienced, confident, and always ready to go, always pursuing the next encounter. So for someone that isn’t all of those things, especially at the age of your bf, that creates a lot of anxiety. And that anxiety is increased exponentially when your female partner is very open and aggressive with her sexuality, as now not only do you feel pressure to live up to societal expectations, but you also have to surpass hers and find a way to be impressive despite her superior level of experience. So while there’s nothing wrong with your experience or openness, it does put a lot of stress on your BF, especially if he sees your relationship as very serious and is hoping to potentially be the last person you ever have sex with. And while I know you’re just being supportive trying to talk to him and reassure him or help him find treatments, just the fact that you’re even bringing it up at all is going to make it difficult for him to lose that anxiety and shame. I’d say give him a few more chances, and kind of make yourself more submissive, if he can’t get it up at first act like it’s nothing and just continue playing the part. Eventually he’ll come around. Or if not, then have the talk.