I don’t think it matters. Unless dear old dad called OP a racial slur first, it’s pretty unforgivable (and even then, being the better person is preferable to racism.) The girlfriend probably believes OP is a racist just below the surface and he’d call her and their future children vile slurs if he got angry enough. Who wants to live! like that?
Bro, fuck all of this. This guy has her info to do whatever he pleases with it, and has already proven he’ll do so. That is not only extremely unprofessional, but highly creepy. The fact that he didn’t take the hint when she blocked him on ig is even more unsettling.
I would most definitely report him to the dmv if i was you and if he doesn’t stop contacting her, also have your gf file a restraining order. It’s a scary world and we can never be too sure of ones intentions or what’s going on in their head. Stay safe and best of luck to you guys
Yes, I was in the same exact situation when I was your age, and we started dating a few years later. Guys aren’t fully developed at 20 and while you might not find him attractive now, you might later. I also think when I was 20 I had a very set vision of what kind of men I was into and it wasn’t until I had more experience that I became more open-minded. Maybe don’t force it if you aren’t ready? You don’t want to throw away a great friendship over a failed romance.
You cannot possibly know someone after 3 months of being together, let alone not meeting them IRL. Why would you want to commit the rest of your life to someone you don't know?
I think you need to spend some time alone figuring out yourself rather than hinging your happiness off someone else.
“I was really excited until she kept opening my Snapchat’s and texts and not responding”
This is where you should've moved on. This is just the nature of live dating, people are going change their minds and flake out. No big deal, you're young and there's plenty of great women out there.
I worry about this too. When I had our son he was in the lowest place he had ever been. He said he wasn’t having suicidal thoughts but I didn’t believe him. I gave his hunting gun to his parents and put the sharp knives in a different place. I thought he was doing better but this comment really concerned me. I don’t think he would tell me (or possibly even know to identify the suicidal thoughts as suicidal thoughts). I just wish I could help him figure this out.
Absolutely, it really shocked me
I don’t think it matters. Unless dear old dad called OP a racial slur first, it’s pretty unforgivable (and even then, being the better person is preferable to racism.) The girlfriend probably believes OP is a racist just below the surface and he’d call her and their future children vile slurs if he got angry enough. Who wants to live! like that?
Bro, fuck all of this. This guy has her info to do whatever he pleases with it, and has already proven he’ll do so. That is not only extremely unprofessional, but highly creepy. The fact that he didn’t take the hint when she blocked him on ig is even more unsettling.
I would most definitely report him to the dmv if i was you and if he doesn’t stop contacting her, also have your gf file a restraining order. It’s a scary world and we can never be too sure of ones intentions or what’s going on in their head. Stay safe and best of luck to you guys
Being unhappy is a good enough reason to end the relationship
Yes, I was in the same exact situation when I was your age, and we started dating a few years later. Guys aren’t fully developed at 20 and while you might not find him attractive now, you might later. I also think when I was 20 I had a very set vision of what kind of men I was into and it wasn’t until I had more experience that I became more open-minded. Maybe don’t force it if you aren’t ready? You don’t want to throw away a great friendship over a failed romance.
ok thanks i'll deffo act on ur advice
Was that an internet relationship too?
You cannot possibly know someone after 3 months of being together, let alone not meeting them IRL. Why would you want to commit the rest of your life to someone you don't know?
I think you need to spend some time alone figuring out yourself rather than hinging your happiness off someone else.
Huh. You'd think there were more fulfilling hobbies out there.
Ask him how he feels about it. Part of a relationship is to be here for each other in time of need.
Yes, dozens of people could vouch for me.
I’m trying to think of a way to do that without airing my dirty laundry at work though, don’t need any unnecessary gossip.
I was thinking of asking security to check when my badge came into the building maybe.
i’m bi. do not pass go, do not collect $200. fun little creative writing, most definitely someone bored looking for live! attention rip.
“I was really excited until she kept opening my Snapchat’s and texts and not responding”
This is where you should've moved on. This is just the nature of live dating, people are going change their minds and flake out. No big deal, you're young and there's plenty of great women out there.
I worry about this too. When I had our son he was in the lowest place he had ever been. He said he wasn’t having suicidal thoughts but I didn’t believe him. I gave his hunting gun to his parents and put the sharp knives in a different place. I thought he was doing better but this comment really concerned me. I don’t think he would tell me (or possibly even know to identify the suicidal thoughts as suicidal thoughts). I just wish I could help him figure this out.