a couple times but it was never anything major. she told me if i was showed a little more confidence i could pull anyone, shit like that. as i said i fully understand i have no chance with her but i still can't get over her. 5 years is no small time period lmao
If you keep eating waffle cakes i will break up with you is a boundary, but it’s an unreasonable one used to leverage a relationship to control someone. You can get into semantics all you like defending an absolutely ridiculous comparison and give your smug little responses. That’s fine by me.
That's so bizarre ? Damn robots. They don't interact with you, which would either indicate guilt OR they don't like you just because you are “the wife” of their number 4. Does your husband still see his old friends? Or has he cut contact with them? If it is a cult situation, then they would want him to distance himself from.his “old life”. Has his personality changed any during the times he's known these weirdos?
Dude. Dude. You are actually going to break up with a woman because she is too beautiful, too smart, and too fun for you? She loves you, don’t be an idiot.
I do all 3 of those. I'm guessing I should've put more details in the post, but I didn't want to write a full on novel. I've already checked my mom and made sure she knows not to come out of line with my wife again, and she has had four or five spa days since the baby was born but its like I have to literally force her (pack the spa bag, buy the pass, drag her into the car, to get her to do it.) Its not like she has to leave me with a list of things to do to take care of the household- she wasn't on formal bed rest after birth, but I wasn't going to let (or make or make her feel like she had to) do chores when she just went through all that.
I know for sure I can do better on the night feedings, but when I set an alarm to do it she was annoyed. She felt like the baby crying was alarm enough. But somehow I just sleep through it.
If I offered to just sleep in the nursery for now on would that be better? Not joking, I seriously considered this, but my wife is a cuddler when sleeping so I'm not sure how she would feel about it.
So he blew up friendships because you put your head on the shoulder of one of his friends (which was probably one of your friends at this point)…. and now he is angry at you again for what happened years ago. He needs therapy and you need a new boyfriend. You have been mentally beating yourself up over it, he has been emotionally stressing you over it…come on. He has some real fucking mental issues and you need to break free from that
You say she makes you share locations, does she check up on you periodically throughout the day or question where you are/why you’re at a certain place? I only ask because I have an ex like that and it only got worse and more controlling. It took me a while, but I realized continuing to stay and “comfort” him during these accusations was just enabling the behavior. Towards the end of my relationship, he started going through my phone while I was sleeping and waking me up with these crazy accusations that I was cheating or going to leave him. We start normalizing the behavior the longer we stay and it’s way too much of a mental load to take on. Don’t put up with it as long as I did, it’s not a fun roller coaster to be on. She needs counseling to begin working past the insecurities and she’s not going to be capable of a healthy relationship until she works past them.
I’d start coffee dates with women, preferably, a few years younger than her. It sounds like you do ok for yourself, so I would absolutely schedule them, maybe two in the same week? Make sure you follow up with these women via text and make it well known.
a couple times but it was never anything major. she told me if i was showed a little more confidence i could pull anyone, shit like that. as i said i fully understand i have no chance with her but i still can't get over her. 5 years is no small time period lmao
If you keep eating waffle cakes i will break up with you is a boundary, but it’s an unreasonable one used to leverage a relationship to control someone. You can get into semantics all you like defending an absolutely ridiculous comparison and give your smug little responses. That’s fine by me.
We need a new forum to chat on .with limited power for Moderators.
copy all the data.
talk with her. be ready to talk with your and her parents.
That's so bizarre ? Damn robots. They don't interact with you, which would either indicate guilt OR they don't like you just because you are “the wife” of their number 4. Does your husband still see his old friends? Or has he cut contact with them? If it is a cult situation, then they would want him to distance himself from.his “old life”. Has his personality changed any during the times he's known these weirdos?
Dude. Dude. You are actually going to break up with a woman because she is too beautiful, too smart, and too fun for you? She loves you, don’t be an idiot.
I do all 3 of those. I'm guessing I should've put more details in the post, but I didn't want to write a full on novel. I've already checked my mom and made sure she knows not to come out of line with my wife again, and she has had four or five spa days since the baby was born but its like I have to literally force her (pack the spa bag, buy the pass, drag her into the car, to get her to do it.) Its not like she has to leave me with a list of things to do to take care of the household- she wasn't on formal bed rest after birth, but I wasn't going to let (or make or make her feel like she had to) do chores when she just went through all that.
I know for sure I can do better on the night feedings, but when I set an alarm to do it she was annoyed. She felt like the baby crying was alarm enough. But somehow I just sleep through it.
If I offered to just sleep in the nursery for now on would that be better? Not joking, I seriously considered this, but my wife is a cuddler when sleeping so I'm not sure how she would feel about it.
So he blew up friendships because you put your head on the shoulder of one of his friends (which was probably one of your friends at this point)…. and now he is angry at you again for what happened years ago. He needs therapy and you need a new boyfriend. You have been mentally beating yourself up over it, he has been emotionally stressing you over it…come on. He has some real fucking mental issues and you need to break free from that
Only oral? That's actually worse in my opinion than if they had just boiked.
LMAO
You say she makes you share locations, does she check up on you periodically throughout the day or question where you are/why you’re at a certain place? I only ask because I have an ex like that and it only got worse and more controlling. It took me a while, but I realized continuing to stay and “comfort” him during these accusations was just enabling the behavior. Towards the end of my relationship, he started going through my phone while I was sleeping and waking me up with these crazy accusations that I was cheating or going to leave him. We start normalizing the behavior the longer we stay and it’s way too much of a mental load to take on. Don’t put up with it as long as I did, it’s not a fun roller coaster to be on. She needs counseling to begin working past the insecurities and she’s not going to be capable of a healthy relationship until she works past them.
Sounds like its your turn to step it up before he leaves you. Lol
You're welcome! It's a little too late to help myself, so I want to help others.
Plus, I've run out of things to do after so long in a hospital bed ?
I’d start coffee dates with women, preferably, a few years younger than her. It sounds like you do ok for yourself, so I would absolutely schedule them, maybe two in the same week? Make sure you follow up with these women via text and make it well known.