What he is telling you is basically complete and utter BS. A lot of people have higher libido's than others, but you deal with this in a relationship through discipline and masturbation. Feeling horny is no good reason or justification to cheat!
It is also impossible to have unemotional sex; when he's going around sleeping with those other women, he's getting a rush of dopamine and it's making him feel very good about himself. And he doesn't care about you in the slightest; this activity is not only disrespectful, but it's routinely exposing to you risks regarding situations that are unfavourable to yourself (STD's, other women getting pregnant by him, etc). I would strongly recommend that you get yourself tested for STD's.
You sound terribly, terribly naive. And this immoral guy is taking advantage of every bit of this- no wonder he thinks you're perfect; he's found a woman dumb enough to believe and accept that it's Ok (even necessary) for him to sleep around with other women all the time! Your relationship by most people's reckoning would be considered very bad and abnormal.
May I ask how were you raised/educated? I'm surprised that you don't know about stuff like this.
This is sexual assault. He doesn't have a right to your body. You are not an object. He 100% knows it upsets you. He isn't doing it to be affectionate. He is weaponizing touch. It's just more trauma. Look at other boundaries in your life. Are those respected either?
I am hoping they patch it up.
What he is telling you is basically complete and utter BS. A lot of people have higher libido's than others, but you deal with this in a relationship through discipline and masturbation. Feeling horny is no good reason or justification to cheat!
It is also impossible to have unemotional sex; when he's going around sleeping with those other women, he's getting a rush of dopamine and it's making him feel very good about himself. And he doesn't care about you in the slightest; this activity is not only disrespectful, but it's routinely exposing to you risks regarding situations that are unfavourable to yourself (STD's, other women getting pregnant by him, etc). I would strongly recommend that you get yourself tested for STD's.
You sound terribly, terribly naive. And this immoral guy is taking advantage of every bit of this- no wonder he thinks you're perfect; he's found a woman dumb enough to believe and accept that it's Ok (even necessary) for him to sleep around with other women all the time! Your relationship by most people's reckoning would be considered very bad and abnormal.
May I ask how were you raised/educated? I'm surprised that you don't know about stuff like this.
This is sexual assault. He doesn't have a right to your body. You are not an object. He 100% knows it upsets you. He isn't doing it to be affectionate. He is weaponizing touch. It's just more trauma. Look at other boundaries in your life. Are those respected either?
But if I wait a bit longer, I would increase the possibility that she wont break up with me. Isnt it? ? so she could see a better future me