I think the big issue here is that you're focusing far too much on the need for validation, in that, you want him to acknowledge all of this, good and bad. You're not inherently crazy to have that feeling, but you do need to realize it's not coming. So your validation needs to be the objective truth that you know.
Of course dealing with custody is a big priority. But that doesn't mean you don't exist at all. If that were his excuse, then that would logically mean he makes no effort with your seven month old. If one or both are true, that's a huge problem.
Then you take care of him after surgery and the only thing he says to you is that you don't do anything at all. Unless you're lying to us, you obviously did help and take care of him, which means he's just an asshole.
I'm not sure what you mean by the mirror but I don't think that really even matters.
That's not an insinuation, she's stating it outright. “You can fuck my husband if you want” is extremely direct.
Wow. So sad.
You are emotionally healthy. He is not.
Run.
I think the big issue here is that you're focusing far too much on the need for validation, in that, you want him to acknowledge all of this, good and bad. You're not inherently crazy to have that feeling, but you do need to realize it's not coming. So your validation needs to be the objective truth that you know.
Of course dealing with custody is a big priority. But that doesn't mean you don't exist at all. If that were his excuse, then that would logically mean he makes no effort with your seven month old. If one or both are true, that's a huge problem.
Then you take care of him after surgery and the only thing he says to you is that you don't do anything at all. Unless you're lying to us, you obviously did help and take care of him, which means he's just an asshole.
I'm not sure what you mean by the mirror but I don't think that really even matters.
She sounds kind of an idiot.