Shes enjoying it, its good for her ego, and she seems to enjoy forcing you to accept it.
Not sure what that means to you. My wife had a girl who was a friend before we met but eventually she, as she didnt approve of me, really pushed her a bit to do better for herself, and she quickly became an ex friend.
If your GF wont stop hanging with him, and wont say anything to him, you know your relationship isnt exactly what you think/hoped it was. She's playing a dangerous game and the only one who will be burned is you.
Set your boundaries, if she doesnt agree, stop wasting your time on a woman who puts ego kibbles before her other half.
Unfortunate short answer is you can't make him make these kinds of changes.
Talking with him about his feelings, encouraging consistent healthy habits, showing him intimacy and affection, encouraging the same with your kids, not pressuring him and supporting the healthy changes he makes for himself in a way that isn't judgmental or condescending is about all you can do.
But the mindset to care about oneself and make long term changes in their life is on them. You should be supportive and encouraging to your partners, but that's about all you can do. pressuring him with ultimatums or telling him that his health and weight is lowering your attraction for him could be soul crushing and cause way more problems in your relationship.
Old saying “you can take a horse to water but you can't make him drink”
Wow, people are quick to send you to the therapist. I'm not on board to that. You just came out an abusive relationship, so you crushing on somebody that's the opposite is not weird. Just remind yourself that that's just a rebound behaviour.
I don’t know if they’re sleeping together but I fully believe he’s wanted to at least see her naked and certainly wants to sleep with her. I admit there’s at least a strong possibility that they slept together during the shoot. I’d be very upset if I were OP.
I think you did right. Every time there’s a fight he brings this girl up. He just not only mention her but he contacts her also. He knows it hurts you but he wants to punish you.
This is a soft dump. The best thing to do is to let him go completely. It’s the only way you are going to maintain self respect and ironically is the only way to keep his respect.
Not my intention. But it’s more of refusing to get to know me. They don’t talk to me, gf has asked me questions on behalf of what her father has said.
By the looks of it, and the interactions. Families could in fact clash. I wonder if it is a comfort thing that the parents need to adjust to since it’s the relationship of their first born
How do I snuff her intentions without her going onto someone else. If I lose her as a friend her husband will definitely notice.
Shes enjoying it, its good for her ego, and she seems to enjoy forcing you to accept it.
Not sure what that means to you. My wife had a girl who was a friend before we met but eventually she, as she didnt approve of me, really pushed her a bit to do better for herself, and she quickly became an ex friend.
If your GF wont stop hanging with him, and wont say anything to him, you know your relationship isnt exactly what you think/hoped it was. She's playing a dangerous game and the only one who will be burned is you.
Set your boundaries, if she doesnt agree, stop wasting your time on a woman who puts ego kibbles before her other half.
You a sex toy he can control.
Unfortunate short answer is you can't make him make these kinds of changes.
Talking with him about his feelings, encouraging consistent healthy habits, showing him intimacy and affection, encouraging the same with your kids, not pressuring him and supporting the healthy changes he makes for himself in a way that isn't judgmental or condescending is about all you can do.
But the mindset to care about oneself and make long term changes in their life is on them. You should be supportive and encouraging to your partners, but that's about all you can do. pressuring him with ultimatums or telling him that his health and weight is lowering your attraction for him could be soul crushing and cause way more problems in your relationship.
Old saying “you can take a horse to water but you can't make him drink”
Got to end this; things will only get worse.
If you don’t dry them correctly, definitely
Wow, people are quick to send you to the therapist. I'm not on board to that. You just came out an abusive relationship, so you crushing on somebody that's the opposite is not weird. Just remind yourself that that's just a rebound behaviour.
So would I if my wife ended up pulling this shit.
I don’t know if they’re sleeping together but I fully believe he’s wanted to at least see her naked and certainly wants to sleep with her. I admit there’s at least a strong possibility that they slept together during the shoot. I’d be very upset if I were OP.
I think you did right. Every time there’s a fight he brings this girl up. He just not only mention her but he contacts her also. He knows it hurts you but he wants to punish you.
Jesus Christ
This is a soft dump. The best thing to do is to let him go completely. It’s the only way you are going to maintain self respect and ironically is the only way to keep his respect.
Not my intention. But it’s more of refusing to get to know me. They don’t talk to me, gf has asked me questions on behalf of what her father has said.
By the looks of it, and the interactions. Families could in fact clash. I wonder if it is a comfort thing that the parents need to adjust to since it’s the relationship of their first born