1 red flag when I was reading when I put two and two together. Husband and OP got together when he was mid 20s and she was 18 ?
The “GET ON BOARD WITH IT” remark is just yikes. Seems to me like he feels like the superior one in the marriage due to age gap.
OP, do NOT have another baby with this man. What if it’s not a son, will he keep on pressuring you for another child? Also you let feelings are valid to not want to have another kid with him after that comment he made.
If you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who is bi, then don't be. Don't make this about her, this is about your reaction to unexpected news. If being with someone who is bi, isn't for you, end it, but for God's sake take responsibility for your feelings and any decisions that arise from them.
The only solution to this problem would probably be therapy of some sort.
She claims that my compliments mean nothing to her because she doesn’t believe them when she’s not wearing makeup.
You need to work on the trust that you have with each other, it seems like at some level she does not believe you are being truthful. It seems like she feels the need to talk down on herself when people say she looks good without makeup. She needs to learn to accept that other people may have a different opinions of her, but the only thing that she can truly control is her own opinion on herself.
Op's girlfriend if you are reading this: You need to please stop your negative self talk when people try to compliment you. Not only does this invalidate the person who trying to complement you, but it also does nothing to help with your negative self-esteem.
Just to clarify, you’re saying that in one year you’ve gotten pregnant 3 times, despite using condoms + pill the first two times and condoms + iud the third time?
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1 red flag when I was reading when I put two and two together. Husband and OP got together when he was mid 20s and she was 18 ?
The “GET ON BOARD WITH IT” remark is just yikes. Seems to me like he feels like the superior one in the marriage due to age gap.
OP, do NOT have another baby with this man. What if it’s not a son, will he keep on pressuring you for another child? Also you let feelings are valid to not want to have another kid with him after that comment he made.
If you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who is bi, then don't be. Don't make this about her, this is about your reaction to unexpected news. If being with someone who is bi, isn't for you, end it, but for God's sake take responsibility for your feelings and any decisions that arise from them.
The only solution to this problem would probably be therapy of some sort.
She claims that my compliments mean nothing to her because she doesn’t believe them when she’s not wearing makeup.
You need to work on the trust that you have with each other, it seems like at some level she does not believe you are being truthful. It seems like she feels the need to talk down on herself when people say she looks good without makeup. She needs to learn to accept that other people may have a different opinions of her, but the only thing that she can truly control is her own opinion on herself.
Op's girlfriend if you are reading this: You need to please stop your negative self talk when people try to compliment you. Not only does this invalidate the person who trying to complement you, but it also does nothing to help with your negative self-esteem.
Just to clarify, you’re saying that in one year you’ve gotten pregnant 3 times, despite using condoms + pill the first two times and condoms + iud the third time?
Wait…. you were together 4 years without sex? Is that what you're saying?
Do you have a place to stay if you move back to California?
if someone shows you who they are, believe them.
We are not calling men trash, we understand who we are. Being trash is not calling up an ex after 6 months.
Women are perfectly fine talking to someone after 6 years and catching up, men do not do this. WE DO NOT DO THIS. (without intent)
Great advice, he’s terrible