Your husband has apologized. If you Dad won't grow up then you need to either start hosting Christmas instead of your parents, or just stop going all together.
You need to go to a therapist you find on your own. Your husband groomed you when he was your teacher, and now that you are starting to think for yourself he is trying to get you to go to this therapist as another way to control you. Find your own therapist.
He explained plenty when he specifically said that he wanted it to be a thing for him and his friends. What more explanation does she need? What, do you want him to triangulate his location and provide a peer-reviewed essay detailing why he doesn’t want her to intrude on bro time?
Your ex is stuck between a rock and a hot place. She doesn't want to be with you due to all the lies and cahos your addiction dumped on her, which is reasonable. She also doesn't trust you to remain sober or be a safe parent if you both fully separated. In her mind, how would she know if you were sober during, say, a 2-day visitation. That is a long time for young children to be left unsafe.
Yet she would have to yet again be the only parent picking up the emotional, physical, and financial hit if you relapse again.
You will have to prove to a very high standard (drug tests before visits, etx) to earn her trust as a co parent. You may also have very little time with your children until trust is built by you, and no, that doesn't happen on a time scale determined by you. She knows this and knows how it would affect everyone. So, she is trying to do the best she can in the current situation.
Is it correct or healthy, probably not, but you are free to leave and begin the legal process to sort out a proper co parenting relationship.
Your ex would greatly benefit from the SMART family program as learning to trust an addict is a tough job. I say all of this as the child of an addict and the ex partner of an addict. I know what would have safe guarded me as a child and i also know the lengths i have had to go to, to safeguard my own children.
Yes, seek leegal advice. Parental alienation is a thing that she might well lose custody over if you an prove it. Or atleast get joint custody.
If the little man sees that you are in fact willing to fight for him it might go a long way to undo the damage that has been done.
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Stay with your husband
Your husband has apologized. If you Dad won't grow up then you need to either start hosting Christmas instead of your parents, or just stop going all together.
You need to go to a therapist you find on your own. Your husband groomed you when he was your teacher, and now that you are starting to think for yourself he is trying to get you to go to this therapist as another way to control you. Find your own therapist.
He explained plenty when he specifically said that he wanted it to be a thing for him and his friends. What more explanation does she need? What, do you want him to triangulate his location and provide a peer-reviewed essay detailing why he doesn’t want her to intrude on bro time?
Your ex is stuck between a rock and a hot place. She doesn't want to be with you due to all the lies and cahos your addiction dumped on her, which is reasonable. She also doesn't trust you to remain sober or be a safe parent if you both fully separated. In her mind, how would she know if you were sober during, say, a 2-day visitation. That is a long time for young children to be left unsafe.
Yet she would have to yet again be the only parent picking up the emotional, physical, and financial hit if you relapse again.
You will have to prove to a very high standard (drug tests before visits, etx) to earn her trust as a co parent. You may also have very little time with your children until trust is built by you, and no, that doesn't happen on a time scale determined by you. She knows this and knows how it would affect everyone. So, she is trying to do the best she can in the current situation.
Is it correct or healthy, probably not, but you are free to leave and begin the legal process to sort out a proper co parenting relationship.
Your ex would greatly benefit from the SMART family program as learning to trust an addict is a tough job. I say all of this as the child of an addict and the ex partner of an addict. I know what would have safe guarded me as a child and i also know the lengths i have had to go to, to safeguard my own children.
Yea sure. I have a castle to sell you then.