So let me get this straight, your boyfriend went behind your back, had sexual relationships with another woman, hid it from you, until he knew he was going to get called out, and then decide to inform you and “confess”, even though you would’ve known through those videos, so it’s not so much a confession…
Then he proceeds to tell you that he thinks everything he did was OK, and he did not do anything wrong.
I almost feel like you know exactly what you need to do, but you’ve given this guy so much of your time and your life that you don’t want it to make that choice. if you stayed with him, you know exactly what you’re going to online with for the rest of your life. If he was remorseful and apologetic, and did not think he was in the right, I would be an optimist to say that maybe there was some type of chance. Just for the fact that he thinks he did nothing wrong, it’s time for him to move on and feel wanted by other women all he wants because the attention you gave him apparently was not enough.
I’m so sorry. You are grieving a huge loss made even more difficult by not having a more conclusive closure. You really, truly deserve that. In her absence, I hope some peace and joy have more room in your life. Happy Birthday, early. ❤️
Wow, to be completely honest in this situation I would write out and e-mail, get all your feelings out and ghost him. What he and his friends did was absolutely horrible, immature, and insensitive. I have a feeling the female friend thinks more of your boyfriend than just a friend. Ghost all of them honestly and move on with your life. So sorry this happened to you.
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He is prob a good person. However, you will never see that so long as he is drinking. Experience with this on both sides
So let me get this straight, your boyfriend went behind your back, had sexual relationships with another woman, hid it from you, until he knew he was going to get called out, and then decide to inform you and “confess”, even though you would’ve known through those videos, so it’s not so much a confession…
Then he proceeds to tell you that he thinks everything he did was OK, and he did not do anything wrong.
I almost feel like you know exactly what you need to do, but you’ve given this guy so much of your time and your life that you don’t want it to make that choice. if you stayed with him, you know exactly what you’re going to online with for the rest of your life. If he was remorseful and apologetic, and did not think he was in the right, I would be an optimist to say that maybe there was some type of chance. Just for the fact that he thinks he did nothing wrong, it’s time for him to move on and feel wanted by other women all he wants because the attention you gave him apparently was not enough.
So you took back a cheater and he cheater again? Shocking and you're still with him why? Just cut off the communication channel, heal and move on
I would empathize with him if he was doing literally anything to improve his situation
That's the problem. My feelings for my boyfriend haven't changed at all. I just developed a new crush on top of that. But thanks for the advice.
Go to your graduation. If I lived nearby, I would go to yours just to cheer you up, OP.
Do you have friends that can go to your graduation?
I’m so sorry. You are grieving a huge loss made even more difficult by not having a more conclusive closure. You really, truly deserve that. In her absence, I hope some peace and joy have more room in your life. Happy Birthday, early. ❤️
Thank you. Those are all worth investigating. I really don’t want to have the talk until I see something more definitive
Wow, to be completely honest in this situation I would write out and e-mail, get all your feelings out and ghost him. What he and his friends did was absolutely horrible, immature, and insensitive. I have a feeling the female friend thinks more of your boyfriend than just a friend. Ghost all of them honestly and move on with your life. So sorry this happened to you.