Having sex with someone when they've repeatedly said no is rape. A “moment of being horny” does not excuse ignoring consent. It's not some trivial thing you get to just hand wave away.
So, he got you pregnant, but he won't even let you see his bedroom? He did drugs with his ex. What makes you think he's not still using in the bedroom that he will not let you enter, because there's potentially paraphernalia or something else in there that he does not want you to see?
What do you tell yourself to convince yourself to stay in a relationship with him? Because from what you have written and the way you describe him and your relationship, he doesn't seem to value you, care for you, or respect you. That is why I ask, “Why are you still with him?”
So you got love bombed by a controlling older man and then he secretly booked a vacation but gaslit you about really being the secretive one? this is the opening behavior to him escalating abuse.
My late partner and I had very specific legal reasons involving his country that meant we couldn't get married legally. It has royally fucked up my life now that he's dead and almost his stuff is eventually going to have to get thrown away because of the legal situation. So I do understand it in extreme circumstances and we did it wrong by not having me on the house. But in most cases yeah you're probably right and I encourage everyone who is in love to get married as soon as they can. Ours is an extreme outlying situation.
Thanks for the comments, I did talk to her about it yesterday. I did mention me leaving her (divorce) because I draw a line with that. But she started crying and we got to arguing about it, and she said she felt sick because she thought I was going to leave. But really who would stay after that. Like someone mentioned earlier, that’s emotionally cheating. Feeling a connection with someone like that.
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This is one of many reasons not to have mixed race kids, lmfao you brought this on yourself and your child.
Having sex with someone when they've repeatedly said no is rape. A “moment of being horny” does not excuse ignoring consent. It's not some trivial thing you get to just hand wave away.
So, he got you pregnant, but he won't even let you see his bedroom? He did drugs with his ex. What makes you think he's not still using in the bedroom that he will not let you enter, because there's potentially paraphernalia or something else in there that he does not want you to see?
What do you tell yourself to convince yourself to stay in a relationship with him? Because from what you have written and the way you describe him and your relationship, he doesn't seem to value you, care for you, or respect you. That is why I ask, “Why are you still with him?”
So you got love bombed by a controlling older man and then he secretly booked a vacation but gaslit you about really being the secretive one? this is the opening behavior to him escalating abuse.
Find your exit. This is not going to end well.
My late partner and I had very specific legal reasons involving his country that meant we couldn't get married legally. It has royally fucked up my life now that he's dead and almost his stuff is eventually going to have to get thrown away because of the legal situation. So I do understand it in extreme circumstances and we did it wrong by not having me on the house. But in most cases yeah you're probably right and I encourage everyone who is in love to get married as soon as they can. Ours is an extreme outlying situation.
Wow. You really need serious help.
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how could you know what she wants?
how she “has a right” to his time.
theyre married i hope they spend quality time together
Thanks for the comments, I did talk to her about it yesterday. I did mention me leaving her (divorce) because I draw a line with that. But she started crying and we got to arguing about it, and she said she felt sick because she thought I was going to leave. But really who would stay after that. Like someone mentioned earlier, that’s emotionally cheating. Feeling a connection with someone like that.