We all make mistakes. I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt you in any way. Perhaps him being horny made him lose thought of what you were going through, or gave him the concept that perhaps some pleasure could actually be good for you too through all of this… For a lot of men it is also showing affection and care and love.
He didn't think about the result or consequences, and yes he should have understood you better to think before acting and know that you were in need of a more emotional type of caring and comfort through this incident.
That being said, I don't know if this would be worth it to break up over. I'd say just talk about it with him and explain to him how it made you feel, so that it doesn't happen again. He'll get his chances to apologize about it and think this through better in the future.
If you live! in an estate please go to your neighbours home ASAP and ask to use their phone to call police. This cannot go unpunished, and I am so sorry this has happened.
Just to say, neurodiversity doesn't really mean that.
Neurodiversity refers to the concept that some people”s brains develop differently from what is considered typical, and their mind processes things differently. Like we are all given the same stimulus, for example, but how we process, think about it and react to it would be different as obviously we are all different people, but some would be very different and considered an atypical presentation. Someone with ASD might find processing certain sensory stimulation (audio, light etc) more intensely and brighter than a non-ASD person. You tend to find certain atypical processes trend, and those trends are linked to the differences in the person's brain development.
Morality is a very complex concept, and there is such variety in moral values that is not necessarily dependent on neuropsychological differences but purely on the person's environment and experience. It's rarely what the moral values are but how these values are presented or processed across the neurodiverse population. Example: some people with ASD might be more likely to have black-and-white mentality with their processing of moral values but this isn't actually just an ASD trait at all.
In conclusion, the idea that OP's lover has different moral values can't be simply summed up in a “ih it's neurodiversity”. Fact is, moral values are very diverse in relationships across everyone, and if someone doesn't agree with yours, they won't be a good fit for you. A relationship is a partnership, and so you have to be on the same page about how the relationship works. Many other things can be different e.g. religion, hobbies, taste etc, but how relationships work for you need to be shared between partners.
Right but the father has also not taken any action. And there's still no mention of any abuse, neglect, or any other mistreatment. Someone can lash out at an absent parent and still be a good parent themselves. This is not as simple as that, and given we only have their sides, and the father is clearly not a solid decison maker… I would assume it's not this simple when looking at the whole picture.
or should i just ask him ?? if so how do i ask without being so annoying? Haha
How is it any less valid than any other religion?
We all make mistakes. I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt you in any way. Perhaps him being horny made him lose thought of what you were going through, or gave him the concept that perhaps some pleasure could actually be good for you too through all of this… For a lot of men it is also showing affection and care and love.
He didn't think about the result or consequences, and yes he should have understood you better to think before acting and know that you were in need of a more emotional type of caring and comfort through this incident.
That being said, I don't know if this would be worth it to break up over. I'd say just talk about it with him and explain to him how it made you feel, so that it doesn't happen again. He'll get his chances to apologize about it and think this through better in the future.
If you live! in an estate please go to your neighbours home ASAP and ask to use their phone to call police. This cannot go unpunished, and I am so sorry this has happened.
I don’t think he is ready to have you be the only and last person to have sex with and he isn’t feeling chemistry from you.
Just to say, neurodiversity doesn't really mean that.
Neurodiversity refers to the concept that some people”s brains develop differently from what is considered typical, and their mind processes things differently. Like we are all given the same stimulus, for example, but how we process, think about it and react to it would be different as obviously we are all different people, but some would be very different and considered an atypical presentation. Someone with ASD might find processing certain sensory stimulation (audio, light etc) more intensely and brighter than a non-ASD person. You tend to find certain atypical processes trend, and those trends are linked to the differences in the person's brain development.
Morality is a very complex concept, and there is such variety in moral values that is not necessarily dependent on neuropsychological differences but purely on the person's environment and experience. It's rarely what the moral values are but how these values are presented or processed across the neurodiverse population. Example: some people with ASD might be more likely to have black-and-white mentality with their processing of moral values but this isn't actually just an ASD trait at all.
In conclusion, the idea that OP's lover has different moral values can't be simply summed up in a “ih it's neurodiversity”. Fact is, moral values are very diverse in relationships across everyone, and if someone doesn't agree with yours, they won't be a good fit for you. A relationship is a partnership, and so you have to be on the same page about how the relationship works. Many other things can be different e.g. religion, hobbies, taste etc, but how relationships work for you need to be shared between partners.
Right but the father has also not taken any action. And there's still no mention of any abuse, neglect, or any other mistreatment. Someone can lash out at an absent parent and still be a good parent themselves. This is not as simple as that, and given we only have their sides, and the father is clearly not a solid decison maker… I would assume it's not this simple when looking at the whole picture.