So honestly, without even having to read your entire post, you have a co-parent, and will continue to co-parent for at least 3 more years. Your gf is the cancer here, trying to create a wedge between you and your co-parent and that is wrong. Your gf needs to understand that if she is going to date a single parent, that she has ZERO say in the way you co-parent. Being on good terms with your co-parent is the absolute best thing you can do for your child's well being.
You may need to make the ultimatum so keep that in mind, but you need to tell your gf that while you respect and always value her opinion, this is a matter that she cannot dictate because for your child's sake, you need a civil and friendly co-parenting dynamic and she is not in charge of that. If she had am issue with that, then maybe you are not the right person for her
But she seems to be so happy with him, I am not jealous not at all, it's just that I hate myself maybe I wasn't able to treat her well. I tried my best to treat her like a queen and she was the dominant one in our relation.
So sister is telling you that her husband is: 1. Abusive 2. Unsafe 3. May have a gambling addiction (spends too much on lottery tickets) 4. May have a drink problem ( drinks on the weekends) 5. Has been stalk and harassing her to the point that she feels she needs to file a restraining order and have the police involved.
But somehow BIL is the victim?
My brothers and family would have cut him off without question. Only contact would be for the kids.
Depends, does the person in your shoes trust their partner?
It's that same old FOMO shit.
They should invent a vaccination. Sheesh…..
Join the club
This feels really victim blame-y
Even though it says “literal garbage”. I still didn't expect it to be literal garbage.
I’m not about to break up with them over this.. it’s not that serious. I’m looking for advice on how to get through it
So honestly, without even having to read your entire post, you have a co-parent, and will continue to co-parent for at least 3 more years. Your gf is the cancer here, trying to create a wedge between you and your co-parent and that is wrong. Your gf needs to understand that if she is going to date a single parent, that she has ZERO say in the way you co-parent. Being on good terms with your co-parent is the absolute best thing you can do for your child's well being.
You may need to make the ultimatum so keep that in mind, but you need to tell your gf that while you respect and always value her opinion, this is a matter that she cannot dictate because for your child's sake, you need a civil and friendly co-parenting dynamic and she is not in charge of that. If she had am issue with that, then maybe you are not the right person for her
But she seems to be so happy with him, I am not jealous not at all, it's just that I hate myself maybe I wasn't able to treat her well. I tried my best to treat her like a queen and she was the dominant one in our relation.
So sister is telling you that her husband is: 1. Abusive 2. Unsafe 3. May have a gambling addiction (spends too much on lottery tickets) 4. May have a drink problem ( drinks on the weekends) 5. Has been stalk and harassing her to the point that she feels she needs to file a restraining order and have the police involved.
But somehow BIL is the victim?
My brothers and family would have cut him off without question. Only contact would be for the kids.