Proposals are not actually surprises. Yes, the actual getting down on one knee is, but you guys should have thoroughly discussed the fact that you plan to do it… just my 2 cent. 25 female.
Move the conversation to what she would do in your place. It will give her a chance to better understand the different interests that you need to serve and the different viewpoints. I would also note that this is probably not just about what she says it is about. There could be other issues for her (outside of your relationship with her) that are coming in to play.
Teenagers are fucking cruel. I promise every single one of those little assholes does some weird shit too. You made it this far and got a girlfriend. You're clearly capable of living a normal life.
Listen man I was you. Truly. I thought every single thing done around me was targeted at causing me pain, disrespect, etc. I'm not close with family, but I had an ex that met with my best friend behind my back. Had me seeing red. I thought they were conspiring against me and that I was better off dead because I wasn't worth telling. Turns out she needed closure on some things I didn't have the answers to. No one knows me like that friend does, and he gave my ex insight on how to deal with what happened, and continue living her life.
Maybe it was the same situation as you. Could be they're worried and talking about how to help you. Or about how you're clearly troubled and if you're going to be okay because your ex and mom are worried. More often than not, people have better intentions than you expect.
Those self esteem issues are like walking through life with cement shoes. It stems from childhood, almost always. I didn't think talking to a shrink would help either, but we dug deep and talked about my piano teacher when I was a little boy. She was a strict, impatient, angry lady. Told me as a 7 year old that if I can't sit down and learn piano, I'm never going to be able to do anything. Never knew where those words came from but I always heard “you're never going to be able to do anything” in my head. Knowing where it comes from really does a lot.
OP I truly do not mean to condescend, PM me and let's talk.
Considering they aren’t even 25 and have 3 kids you can’t really blame them from making shit decisions. Plenty of smart people cheat instead of leaving an unhappy relationship because they fear the backlash or the paperwork or whatever.
yes i'm in medical school right now.
i've been going to therapy for close to 3-4 years because i have adhd and anxiety but that doesn't seem to help anything right now.
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Proposals are not actually surprises. Yes, the actual getting down on one knee is, but you guys should have thoroughly discussed the fact that you plan to do it… just my 2 cent. 25 female.
Move the conversation to what she would do in your place. It will give her a chance to better understand the different interests that you need to serve and the different viewpoints. I would also note that this is probably not just about what she says it is about. There could be other issues for her (outside of your relationship with her) that are coming in to play.
Teenagers are fucking cruel. I promise every single one of those little assholes does some weird shit too. You made it this far and got a girlfriend. You're clearly capable of living a normal life.
Listen man I was you. Truly. I thought every single thing done around me was targeted at causing me pain, disrespect, etc. I'm not close with family, but I had an ex that met with my best friend behind my back. Had me seeing red. I thought they were conspiring against me and that I was better off dead because I wasn't worth telling. Turns out she needed closure on some things I didn't have the answers to. No one knows me like that friend does, and he gave my ex insight on how to deal with what happened, and continue living her life.
Maybe it was the same situation as you. Could be they're worried and talking about how to help you. Or about how you're clearly troubled and if you're going to be okay because your ex and mom are worried. More often than not, people have better intentions than you expect.
Those self esteem issues are like walking through life with cement shoes. It stems from childhood, almost always. I didn't think talking to a shrink would help either, but we dug deep and talked about my piano teacher when I was a little boy. She was a strict, impatient, angry lady. Told me as a 7 year old that if I can't sit down and learn piano, I'm never going to be able to do anything. Never knew where those words came from but I always heard “you're never going to be able to do anything” in my head. Knowing where it comes from really does a lot.
OP I truly do not mean to condescend, PM me and let's talk.
Soooo she wants to use you to have kids? How do you feel about that? Her “genetics” comment doesn’t help here either
It’s been four months not two
Considering they aren’t even 25 and have 3 kids you can’t really blame them from making shit decisions. Plenty of smart people cheat instead of leaving an unhappy relationship because they fear the backlash or the paperwork or whatever.