Sometimes friendships fade. And it seems like this one has run it's course. I don't think you need to make it super drawn out or anything, just a simple reply that you're unable to attend should be sufficient. From your description she never reaches out or texts back, so I doubt it will even turn into a thing.
If you want to salvage the friendship, then you just need to be blunt and honest. Put it all out there. Otherwise you'll never have any resolution and be stuck in the same cycle going forward.
Probably not … he straight up lied to you … about another woman. He's not trustworthy, and without trust … yeay, bye-bye relationship. Probably better to just move on. There are good, decent trustworthy folks … he ain't one of 'em.
Actually if you think him jumping up when asked makes him a winner, you have completely failed to see op’s point. If she has to ask he is not helping shelter the burden of the mental load, he is just another child that has to be told what to do in order for it to get done.
While I agree that if she has known from the get who and how her husband is she can’t expect him to change. However, he also needs to take ownership of his household and understand the additional duties she now has.
Op I recommend talking to him again. This time divide the house chores up, make it a responsibility. Division of labor is tough to navigate, it implies you know both you and your partners strengths and weaknesses. Adhd individuals are often good at multitasking and are capable of completing task but don’t always think to do them. Sit him down and tell him exactly how you need his help and encourage him to find methods of completing such task in a way that is effective for him. Have him figure out a schedule and time that he can commit to and let those be his task! Don’t think about them, if they don’t get done that is on him and he can watch your house and marriage fall apart based on his lack of action.
Unfortunately sometimes you have to make someone with adhd sit down and listen but only they can apply the action. i’ve found that the most effective way of getting them to act is to allow their disfunction to cause disruption. They will either make the changed within themselves and improve or they won’t. You will then have to make a choice based on how they move.
I know it's embarassing in the abstract, but sexts should be a bit cringe. Especially if someone is normally very articulate but they're so overcome by horniness that their grammar goes to shit you know? I've loved some objectively terrible sexts because they were clearly sent straight from the dick.
Doesn’t like Olivia? So Unlimited Breadsticks it is. Ubee for short.
I'll keep this short but sweet. You deserve better.
They sound like jerks.
Sometimes friendships fade. And it seems like this one has run it's course. I don't think you need to make it super drawn out or anything, just a simple reply that you're unable to attend should be sufficient. From your description she never reaches out or texts back, so I doubt it will even turn into a thing.
If you want to salvage the friendship, then you just need to be blunt and honest. Put it all out there. Otherwise you'll never have any resolution and be stuck in the same cycle going forward.
Should I cave in and give him another chance?
Probably not … he straight up lied to you … about another woman. He's not trustworthy, and without trust … yeay, bye-bye relationship. Probably better to just move on. There are good, decent trustworthy folks … he ain't one of 'em.
Actually if you think him jumping up when asked makes him a winner, you have completely failed to see op’s point. If she has to ask he is not helping shelter the burden of the mental load, he is just another child that has to be told what to do in order for it to get done.
While I agree that if she has known from the get who and how her husband is she can’t expect him to change. However, he also needs to take ownership of his household and understand the additional duties she now has.
Op I recommend talking to him again. This time divide the house chores up, make it a responsibility. Division of labor is tough to navigate, it implies you know both you and your partners strengths and weaknesses. Adhd individuals are often good at multitasking and are capable of completing task but don’t always think to do them. Sit him down and tell him exactly how you need his help and encourage him to find methods of completing such task in a way that is effective for him. Have him figure out a schedule and time that he can commit to and let those be his task! Don’t think about them, if they don’t get done that is on him and he can watch your house and marriage fall apart based on his lack of action.
Unfortunately sometimes you have to make someone with adhd sit down and listen but only they can apply the action. i’ve found that the most effective way of getting them to act is to allow their disfunction to cause disruption. They will either make the changed within themselves and improve or they won’t. You will then have to make a choice based on how they move.
How's yslyric a troll? They literally just seem like a normal Reddit user.
If anything, you seem to be overrracting
Read what you just wrote. You feel like you found a one in a billion match. Why would she slip away due to this?
I know it's embarassing in the abstract, but sexts should be a bit cringe. Especially if someone is normally very articulate but they're so overcome by horniness that their grammar goes to shit you know? I've loved some objectively terrible sexts because they were clearly sent straight from the dick.
You should be allowed to stay in her hotel room. If not; she needs a really good fuckin reason. A rationale one. Good luck… cuz there isn’t one.