OP, breathe deeply and let that shit gooooo. It was obviously a stupid bet prank with her girlfriends, and a fond memory. She has a life outside of your relationship and had one before you met. Don’t be the guy who is jealous of something dumb that has nothing to do with you and makes her get rid of a memento of a fond memory with her friends. Ive been on the receiving end of this and trust me when I say, it does not end well.
It would be different if she had a collection of hoodies that she had to “earn”. Like I know of a specific military job that would only give you a unit hoodie if you were either one of them, married to one of them or slept with one of them. I can see how that kind of collection would be unsettling, but this is fun high school stuff…
Considering the fact that she most certainly had an emotional affair, and likely even had a physical one, why would you want to continue the relationship? She obviously has no intention of remaining loyal to you or to respect boundaries and protect the relationship. This isn’t a woman you can trust.
My advice is, since you already pretty much broke up with her, just make it permanent. You can find a better woman out there, and let this girl online with her new guy.
I think if BIL offered to pay for her and her husband and he planned the activities, she would still want to leave hisband behind.
I think this nails it, she's making a bunch of excuses. The only reason she's taking her husband's side now is people rightly pointed out she'd be fucking up her marriage. The comments asking her to have some empathy seem to fly right past her. Reading this she obviously doesn't love her husband and I think her sister and BIL are picking up on that hence why they didn't invite him.
Exactly! My bullshit detector when off the charts on this one! This (ex) friend is clearly trying to be the sacrificial lamb for the wife, her hero so to speak. It’s not naked to feign being shocked and appalled. The dead give away is that this likely hood that she did not send them is unlikely, and with her remaining attitude about it. Most women who are sincerely innocent would have had the same initial reactions, as well as continued discomfort about that level of privacy violation from a so called friend, be freaking out at them to delete the pics, and want to put as much distance as possible with that guy. This woman just wants it all dropped and life carrying on which is highly unrealistic and shows a disrespectful lack of regard for how her and is feeling about all this.
People aren’t objects you can customize to fit your liking. If you think your “standards” should be “higher” then don’t date people who don’t meet your standards. Break up and let her find someone who who’ll treat her like a person, not a project.
I asked him that am I your type and everything that you wanted in a girlfriend . And he said no because I’m not his type in looks but he still wants me he said. He said part of him wanted that look in a girlfriend but now he says he is past that and does not want that look anymore. But I’m not sure how to exactly feel or what to do after hearing that he was wanting a different look in a girlfriend while we are dating
Idk about you but buying someone something and expecting them to do exactly what you want in return seems pretty entitled to me.
Ungrateful? What, she owes him her body because he took her to a game?
OP, breathe deeply and let that shit gooooo. It was obviously a stupid bet prank with her girlfriends, and a fond memory. She has a life outside of your relationship and had one before you met. Don’t be the guy who is jealous of something dumb that has nothing to do with you and makes her get rid of a memento of a fond memory with her friends. Ive been on the receiving end of this and trust me when I say, it does not end well.
It would be different if she had a collection of hoodies that she had to “earn”. Like I know of a specific military job that would only give you a unit hoodie if you were either one of them, married to one of them or slept with one of them. I can see how that kind of collection would be unsettling, but this is fun high school stuff…
Considering the fact that she most certainly had an emotional affair, and likely even had a physical one, why would you want to continue the relationship? She obviously has no intention of remaining loyal to you or to respect boundaries and protect the relationship. This isn’t a woman you can trust.
My advice is, since you already pretty much broke up with her, just make it permanent. You can find a better woman out there, and let this girl online with her new guy.
Trust your gut! Also, maybe it’s time to have a conversation.
I felt like I got cheated on, because I even met his family, we said I love you, we slept together, I was introduced to ppl around him as a “gf”
The official dating started after because he wanted to ask me out in this special place.
Yes it's not cheating, he wasn't unfaithful. But I do know he didn't mean the “I love you” before the official day.
I think if BIL offered to pay for her and her husband and he planned the activities, she would still want to leave hisband behind.
I think this nails it, she's making a bunch of excuses. The only reason she's taking her husband's side now is people rightly pointed out she'd be fucking up her marriage. The comments asking her to have some empathy seem to fly right past her. Reading this she obviously doesn't love her husband and I think her sister and BIL are picking up on that hence why they didn't invite him.
Exactly! My bullshit detector when off the charts on this one! This (ex) friend is clearly trying to be the sacrificial lamb for the wife, her hero so to speak. It’s not naked to feign being shocked and appalled. The dead give away is that this likely hood that she did not send them is unlikely, and with her remaining attitude about it. Most women who are sincerely innocent would have had the same initial reactions, as well as continued discomfort about that level of privacy violation from a so called friend, be freaking out at them to delete the pics, and want to put as much distance as possible with that guy. This woman just wants it all dropped and life carrying on which is highly unrealistic and shows a disrespectful lack of regard for how her and is feeling about all this.
People aren’t objects you can customize to fit your liking. If you think your “standards” should be “higher” then don’t date people who don’t meet your standards. Break up and let her find someone who who’ll treat her like a person, not a project.
I asked him that am I your type and everything that you wanted in a girlfriend . And he said no because I’m not his type in looks but he still wants me he said. He said part of him wanted that look in a girlfriend but now he says he is past that and does not want that look anymore. But I’m not sure how to exactly feel or what to do after hearing that he was wanting a different look in a girlfriend while we are dating