I am sure your emotions are all over the place. There will be times when you want to forgive.
When I read a story like this I focus on what stands out for me.
“Emily” has watched “Mark” belittle you and be horrible towards you for six months at least. Knowing what she did that he was hung up on her, spent time alone with him, knew he wanted her to be his girlfriend. At least six months of him being like this, over a year of doing whatever this is with him.
Then she is choosing to make sure he is okay….
She might well be sorry now, but she is still choosing him and has done for the past year. Whether it is about sympathy, attention or feeling needed by him I don't know, perhaps all of that.
He has a lot of anger towards you and will continue to have, that is why you have to file a report, because he is capable of violence that by your own survival instincts just barely managed to keep you alive. That takes a while to sink in, trust me it does. The idea that someone wants you dead isn't an easy thing to think about someone you considered a close friend.
For yourself, distraction is something people find useful when their thoughts won't stop, watch a funny video, do somethign that takes a lot of concentration. Exercise works well. Being purposeful is known to be good for recovery, helping people or doing something productive. Plan for something to do in 6 weeks time, then another 6 weeks, an event, a trip just anything. Meet friends but ask them not to go overboard with talking about this, distraction remember.
You will get through this, keep writing it is helpful to see how far you have come sometimes.
Annnndddd who caries around anything that would take like a crappy 360p vid now days? Reeks of utter BS unless you can see other people you know were there in the video.
That's what people around here call “a red flag.”
Walk away. You're not in a relationship, you're being held hostage.
Both of these points I believe are the best way to go.
No signs of depression but I haven't thought about his testosterone – I might suggest that he gets that checked out. Thank you!
The friend actually suck
I am sure your emotions are all over the place. There will be times when you want to forgive.
When I read a story like this I focus on what stands out for me.
“Emily” has watched “Mark” belittle you and be horrible towards you for six months at least. Knowing what she did that he was hung up on her, spent time alone with him, knew he wanted her to be his girlfriend. At least six months of him being like this, over a year of doing whatever this is with him.
Then she is choosing to make sure he is okay….
She might well be sorry now, but she is still choosing him and has done for the past year. Whether it is about sympathy, attention or feeling needed by him I don't know, perhaps all of that.
He has a lot of anger towards you and will continue to have, that is why you have to file a report, because he is capable of violence that by your own survival instincts just barely managed to keep you alive. That takes a while to sink in, trust me it does. The idea that someone wants you dead isn't an easy thing to think about someone you considered a close friend.
For yourself, distraction is something people find useful when their thoughts won't stop, watch a funny video, do somethign that takes a lot of concentration. Exercise works well. Being purposeful is known to be good for recovery, helping people or doing something productive. Plan for something to do in 6 weeks time, then another 6 weeks, an event, a trip just anything. Meet friends but ask them not to go overboard with talking about this, distraction remember.
You will get through this, keep writing it is helpful to see how far you have come sometimes.
Um.. what????? No no no. That’s insane.
Annnndddd who caries around anything that would take like a crappy 360p vid now days? Reeks of utter BS unless you can see other people you know were there in the video.
Ooooofff imma use this irl.