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Date: December 10, 2022
Good job losing 3 years of your youth on someone whos not compatible sexually.
How many more years are you going to waste? It's up to you.
What has HE said about the situation, and if the meds are causing that much negative impact, maybe it’s better he stops taking them.
And not knowing if he ever wants to have sex and moving him in? You gotta be on the same page about certain things before you move in.
Like clock work no empathy. This is a situation the wife put them in for her job opportunity, it is because of the way she looks people do this and when OP brings it up for seven months the wife has been telling him to suck it ul and get over it. It makes perfect sense to resent the wife even if she can't help the way she looks because she isn't really providing any path forward for him when he is receiving the brunt of the consequences for this move. Your inane bs suggestion of “just confront them bro. Heh when they call you a pedophile just be petty back and call them rude that will stoo them” when he has for months shown proof of his wife's age and they bave reached the point where he is being harassed by police is pathetically stupid considering the energy you're coming to OP with.
I do agree that OP needs to 1. Approach this with a more me and my wife vs this problem as opposed to me vs her vs this problem 2. he needs to be more forceful with opposing people when they state such horrible things and 3. Probably hella therapy if they cant move anytime soon but acting like his feelings are completely irrational, unjustified and unfounded to the extent of blaming him for his situation when he's come here asking for help is disgusting.
Let your friend tell him. The idea that having a conversation with a colleague is tantamount to cheating is absurd, especially when you turned him down the second he attempted to pursue a relationship outside of your professional setting.
Here is how this conversation will go;
BF; Friend said you cheated on me!
You; Did she tell you what I did?
BF; No
You; explains situation
BF; That's not cheating.
I'd honestly be asking your friend why they think this is cheating and what their intentions are for telling your partner. That sounds very suspicious to me.
This is pretty classic — though often unintentionally — manipulative behavior.
It works exactly as you’ve described: you’re upset about something and want to discuss it. Instead of engaging with you as an adult partner, they engage with you as a child does with a parent. Now you’re the “mean dad” making this poor little girl cry, which makes you feel bad, so you drop whatever the issue was as all attention is now on the Poor Little Crying Girl.
I say this as a woman who used to do exactly this, until my now-husband called me out on it about a decade back. I will be forever grateful that he called me out. I had no idea I was doing this. To me, the tears felt like a spontaneous and uncontrollable reaction to conflict. But I realized that it occurred pretty much only at times when I knew (on some level) that he was right — that he was bringing something to my attention that was completely valid and justified.
It’s not fun to take responsibility for our shittier selves. It’s much easier to become little and helpless until a big strong guy wraps their arms around you, apologizes, and stops asking you to be a grown up who sometimes has to admit blame and — even worse — put actual work into changing behaviors.
So, while she’s likely not consciously “trying” to manipulate you, she is anyway. So long as you drop the conversation to comfort her, you are being emotionally manipulated.
I suggest, instead of accusing her of being manipulative, sit her down for a talk at a time when you’re NOT arguing. Describe this pattern in your arguments and the IMPACT it has — not “you derail our conversations by crying,” but rather, “when you cry, it has the effect of derailing our arguments. While my impulse is to comfort you, because I love you, this means that we never actually address the thing I’m trying to talk about with you. How can we solve this problem?”
That last part is important. How can WE solve this problem together. Perhaps when this happens you can have a signal phrase? Like, you can ask if she needs a minute to collect herself, and then continue the conversation?
The important thing here is not that she never shed a tear, but that her tears don’t mean the end of the conversation.
She's letting OP think that he is fighting to keep the marriage so that when it fails, it is **him** who has failed to fight very hot enough rather than **her** who chose to destroy it all.
She's externalising blame by making him jump through the hoops of a game which was over 8 months ago.