There's private, and then there's concealing your identity from someone you're supposed to be forming a leading relationship with. I would not be cool with this at all.
Why even joke about seeing someone else attractive? That’s messed up !!!
My husband try that once when we first started dating and I shit it down fast ! I told him “ if he wants to joke about that he can be single, he’s friends are single for a reason and he better show me respect if he wants to be around “
You are disrespecting her and your relationship just so you can look good in front of your friends…
If she doesn’t take you back you better learn from this mistake and don’t let that happen again…
What is wrong with him?? His reaction makes no sense, something else must be going on with him and he let his anger out over a stupid pillow. Also his “i paid for this” was unnecessary and rude. You should have a talk with him about what is really going on
I’m kind of dumbfounded everyone seems to think this is an issue. I mean, if a guy made a bunch of money and offered to pay for the wedding he wanted, no one would bat an eye.
What I hear you saying is you are happy with the life you have, you want a traditional ceremony to celebrate it, if you have the money and you have the desire I don’t see what else there is to it.
As far as your family goes, seems like maybe they are more worried about his financial prospects and this is a manifestation of that, but you seem content, so I say party on.
You are trying to solve a problem you don't have right now, yes, there could be problems in the future ( of any kind) but you are not there yet and you can't prevent them. You can enjoy the ride, if there ar problems you may solve them or not but at the moment you cant do anything besides learn more about your gf and enjoy every step.
? – if you asked right afterwards, and she was unconscious prior, how did she have any idea of what you did prior to bringing her to orgasm unless you detailed what happened?
I think at some point that may be possible but with these still being relatively recent I’d back off on it. Give it time, it could come back down the road.
Get him to report her. If you forgave him and you guys got past the problem you had, try to put this behind, for your sake.
Some people are just not right in the head. He made a very poor choice and chose trash. Trash, however, does not understand that she was 1 night worth of fun and is obsessing over a guy who blocked her.
Yes, it’s time to ignore him. I don’t mean this to be rude, but he sees you as and is treating you as a back up option. And not even a back up option for a long term partner but just as an occasional one night stand when he’s bored. AND he doesn’t even commit to that much.
I can’t say this last bit for sure, but in my experience when a man is seeing other people, makes plans, then cancels-he’s briefly on the outs with a more significant partner and makes the plans, and then they patch things up and he cancels the plans.
He doesn’t have any serious interest in you. Which is no reflection on you, just to say where he is at.
At the very least you can be sure he’s not interested in anything serious with you. So if nothing else, if you’re looking for a serious relationship you know that isn’t what he wants, so you can cross him off the list.
Here’s the thing, OP. He didn’t “try to kill himself.” He had no intention of killing himself in those woods. It was the same manipulation tactic he’s been using by threatening it, TEN FOLD. If he kills himself, he loses his control over you. If he continues to threaten it and “try,” he is only digging his claws deeper into you. You need to start figuring a safe way to get out of this relationship, and you need to seek therapy. What he is, and sounds like what he has damn near always been, is an abusive pile of waste. You are so you, OP. You have so much learning and loving ahead of you. Work on getting out of this, work on yourself. You deserve so much more.
I’m a man, 37, and have also had plenty of partners in my day. First off, the fact that you keep a list is weird AF. Secondly, you totally sound like an AT acolyte, which automatically makes you a shit person
You’re giving dudes a bad name. You. Your behavior is exactly the shit that most men have to make up for.
That's not how it came across unfortunately. I'm on here looking for advice same as everyone else and was interested to know what others take on it would be. No one has all the answers and sometimes having an obiective opinion from someone who is not close to situation that's what it's really needed. Thank you for your time anyways!
You need to tell her what happened and maybe she will be honestly if anything happened with your friend? She was in a relationship and someone kissed her and she kept hanging out with them?? That’s for sure at least emotional cheating. It sounds like it might be best for you guys to have a clean break, if it’s meant to be you can go out again but I think you both need to be single for a bit
He doesn't care. He's made that clear in his dismissing you and not even bothering to try. You are in love with the idea of him, not the reality.
For me lying about finances is a hot no for going forward.
This man will never care for you. That’s his problem but it doesn’t have to be yours. Drop him
Stfu dude… you're looking for approval to act.
There's private, and then there's concealing your identity from someone you're supposed to be forming a leading relationship with. I would not be cool with this at all.
I am not OP…
Why even joke about seeing someone else attractive? That’s messed up !!!
My husband try that once when we first started dating and I shit it down fast ! I told him “ if he wants to joke about that he can be single, he’s friends are single for a reason and he better show me respect if he wants to be around “
You are disrespecting her and your relationship just so you can look good in front of your friends…
If she doesn’t take you back you better learn from this mistake and don’t let that happen again…
What is wrong with him?? His reaction makes no sense, something else must be going on with him and he let his anger out over a stupid pillow. Also his “i paid for this” was unnecessary and rude. You should have a talk with him about what is really going on
I’m kind of dumbfounded everyone seems to think this is an issue. I mean, if a guy made a bunch of money and offered to pay for the wedding he wanted, no one would bat an eye.
What I hear you saying is you are happy with the life you have, you want a traditional ceremony to celebrate it, if you have the money and you have the desire I don’t see what else there is to it.
As far as your family goes, seems like maybe they are more worried about his financial prospects and this is a manifestation of that, but you seem content, so I say party on.
You are trying to solve a problem you don't have right now, yes, there could be problems in the future ( of any kind) but you are not there yet and you can't prevent them. You can enjoy the ride, if there ar problems you may solve them or not but at the moment you cant do anything besides learn more about your gf and enjoy every step.
She's 51, not 81.
You’ve been dating a month so she should prioritize her career and you should chill trust her or move on
? – if you asked right afterwards, and she was unconscious prior, how did she have any idea of what you did prior to bringing her to orgasm unless you detailed what happened?
How many D Days are you prepared to endure?
How many D Days are you prepared to endure?
I think at some point that may be possible but with these still being relatively recent I’d back off on it. Give it time, it could come back down the road.
Get him to report her. If you forgave him and you guys got past the problem you had, try to put this behind, for your sake.
Some people are just not right in the head. He made a very poor choice and chose trash. Trash, however, does not understand that she was 1 night worth of fun and is obsessing over a guy who blocked her.
Yes, it’s time to ignore him. I don’t mean this to be rude, but he sees you as and is treating you as a back up option. And not even a back up option for a long term partner but just as an occasional one night stand when he’s bored. AND he doesn’t even commit to that much.
I can’t say this last bit for sure, but in my experience when a man is seeing other people, makes plans, then cancels-he’s briefly on the outs with a more significant partner and makes the plans, and then they patch things up and he cancels the plans.
He doesn’t have any serious interest in you. Which is no reflection on you, just to say where he is at.
At the very least you can be sure he’s not interested in anything serious with you. So if nothing else, if you’re looking for a serious relationship you know that isn’t what he wants, so you can cross him off the list.
Here’s the thing, OP. He didn’t “try to kill himself.” He had no intention of killing himself in those woods. It was the same manipulation tactic he’s been using by threatening it, TEN FOLD. If he kills himself, he loses his control over you. If he continues to threaten it and “try,” he is only digging his claws deeper into you. You need to start figuring a safe way to get out of this relationship, and you need to seek therapy. What he is, and sounds like what he has damn near always been, is an abusive pile of waste. You are so you, OP. You have so much learning and loving ahead of you. Work on getting out of this, work on yourself. You deserve so much more.
Gross.
I’m a man, 37, and have also had plenty of partners in my day. First off, the fact that you keep a list is weird AF. Secondly, you totally sound like an AT acolyte, which automatically makes you a shit person
You’re giving dudes a bad name. You. Your behavior is exactly the shit that most men have to make up for.
Get bent.
That's not how it came across unfortunately. I'm on here looking for advice same as everyone else and was interested to know what others take on it would be. No one has all the answers and sometimes having an obiective opinion from someone who is not close to situation that's what it's really needed. Thank you for your time anyways!
Bet she regrets not telling him beforehand more than the actual act. She really fucked up in assuming this would never get out.
You need to tell her what happened and maybe she will be honestly if anything happened with your friend? She was in a relationship and someone kissed her and she kept hanging out with them?? That’s for sure at least emotional cheating. It sounds like it might be best for you guys to have a clean break, if it’s meant to be you can go out again but I think you both need to be single for a bit
Tried that. His mother started getting angry that I was never around.
No trouble. I hope it goes well for you.
What the fuck? Your fiance will break up with you if you won't let him get permission from your father who you hate?
Get the fuck outta here