Seriously! She likely just fantasizes about being ravaged by men. I will never understand the need for naming people. I can see how this is very disturbing to the OP.
At this point he needs to let her know how sickened he feels about her wanting his friends to go at her with him and how that has now created a situation that is very awkward for him and he doesn’t want to be around them with her anymore. Hopefully she can in return think of something good to say to set his mind at ease.
I get that. There's a principle at stake here and you want your bf to stand by you because, let's face it, that just plain shows that he cares. But if I were you, I would wait to make a stand on an issue that really matters to you. The fact that you don't really want to go undermines you position badly.
What would happen if you won this fight? Your boyfriend would stay behind with you but then he might resent you for preventing him from going on a trip that he wants to go on and you don't. And if you actually got to go on the trip, everybody would quickly figure out that you don't actually want to be there, and you would get labeled a Karen.
These are worst case scenarios. Eventually, another even more important issue will come up, one that's 100% important to you, one where you're right, and that will be your time to shine, and people will have no reason to not take you seriously. Not for a congregation of booze hound strangers.
My grandfather snuck into my grandmother's window in France in 1943. They were married until she passed away in 2015 and him in 2019.
Seriously! She likely just fantasizes about being ravaged by men. I will never understand the need for naming people. I can see how this is very disturbing to the OP.
At this point he needs to let her know how sickened he feels about her wanting his friends to go at her with him and how that has now created a situation that is very awkward for him and he doesn’t want to be around them with her anymore. Hopefully she can in return think of something good to say to set his mind at ease.
Let it go
Get therapy
Facebook is trash – and “Facebook official” is some real immature stuff. That said – given the details you mentioned, you’re guy is disrespecting you.
Tell him you’re doing intermittent fasting and reaping the benefits as evidenced by your stable weight.
I get that. There's a principle at stake here and you want your bf to stand by you because, let's face it, that just plain shows that he cares. But if I were you, I would wait to make a stand on an issue that really matters to you. The fact that you don't really want to go undermines you position badly.
What would happen if you won this fight? Your boyfriend would stay behind with you but then he might resent you for preventing him from going on a trip that he wants to go on and you don't. And if you actually got to go on the trip, everybody would quickly figure out that you don't actually want to be there, and you would get labeled a Karen.
These are worst case scenarios. Eventually, another even more important issue will come up, one that's 100% important to you, one where you're right, and that will be your time to shine, and people will have no reason to not take you seriously. Not for a congregation of booze hound strangers.