He has a track record of sleeping w friends and crashing relationships. Your wife never mentioned him at all and met him and has talked w him many times especially since they now work together. Then on top of it all you find her asleep on the couch nude after a work outing . WTF?
What was her reasoning for not coming to bed and sleeping on the couch hard? That’s crazy by itself. Where were her clothes? Beside her on the floor or already in the washer? Did. She have anything to drink on this “work” outing? If. She did drink how did she get home? Have you asked her who all was at the work outing?
I’m just going to be straight and I don’t care who has a problem with it. If I think my wife may be having an emotional affair, physical affair or if I think she’s lying and or things aren’t adding up you can bet I’ll be in her phone digging for whatever doesn’t add up.
Sure we have our privacy but to me if you’re acting sketchy and not telling the full truth you waive your privacy rights so I can get to the truth. In the long run looking in her phone isn’t as bad as cheating. My wife & I have an open phone policy and have ever since cell phones were a thing. Yep I’m that old.
But we’ve been together 32 years so it’d be very hot for either of us to hide anything.
I would question her about all of it because nothing is adding up. If you ignore it and things get worse you won’t forgive yourself for saying nothing.
I’m still hung up on her coming home and crashing nude on the couch. That’s got red flags painted all over that. Did he bring her home? Man I’ve got so many questions.
I wish you the best and I hope I’m wrong but this has all the signs of infidelity all over it. Plus she’s been lying and then trickle truthing you. First she didn’t know him, then she did, met him at a wedding, then he helped her get a job, then at a work night out. She lied to you about him for a reason. If she didn’t do anything wrong she has no reason to hide him from you. Again he has no problems ruining relationships so why would this be different? The sooner you get nosey the sooner you’ll find answers
That definitely makes sense and sounds a lot like what she was trying to explain, thanks for you response!
She's not great.
Really, she's pretty crappy.
Listen to your mother.
P.S. I also have a son your age.
He has a track record of sleeping w friends and crashing relationships. Your wife never mentioned him at all and met him and has talked w him many times especially since they now work together. Then on top of it all you find her asleep on the couch nude after a work outing . WTF?
What was her reasoning for not coming to bed and sleeping on the couch hard? That’s crazy by itself. Where were her clothes? Beside her on the floor or already in the washer? Did. She have anything to drink on this “work” outing? If. She did drink how did she get home? Have you asked her who all was at the work outing?
I’m just going to be straight and I don’t care who has a problem with it. If I think my wife may be having an emotional affair, physical affair or if I think she’s lying and or things aren’t adding up you can bet I’ll be in her phone digging for whatever doesn’t add up.
Sure we have our privacy but to me if you’re acting sketchy and not telling the full truth you waive your privacy rights so I can get to the truth. In the long run looking in her phone isn’t as bad as cheating. My wife & I have an open phone policy and have ever since cell phones were a thing. Yep I’m that old.
But we’ve been together 32 years so it’d be very hot for either of us to hide anything.
I would question her about all of it because nothing is adding up. If you ignore it and things get worse you won’t forgive yourself for saying nothing.
I’m still hung up on her coming home and crashing nude on the couch. That’s got red flags painted all over that. Did he bring her home? Man I’ve got so many questions.
I wish you the best and I hope I’m wrong but this has all the signs of infidelity all over it. Plus she’s been lying and then trickle truthing you. First she didn’t know him, then she did, met him at a wedding, then he helped her get a job, then at a work night out. She lied to you about him for a reason. If she didn’t do anything wrong she has no reason to hide him from you. Again he has no problems ruining relationships so why would this be different? The sooner you get nosey the sooner you’ll find answers
I’m afraid for her when/if she leaves him! This kind of dude isn’t going to go quietly or gracefully…..