I try to understand who has time to go through their man’s instagram, or their SOs instagram to figure out who they are liking? And why does it matter so much? The pictures are just that, pictures. I like pictures all the time without any real feelings towards the pictures. It’s social media. I’m not great with Instagram, I can’t even figure out exactly what my friends LIKE without scrolling through names and checking to see if their names are in the list. It seems like a huge waste of time and energy.
Eh, it would feel really creepy and infantilizing to be “checking up” after someone like that. Going out of my way to have a conversation with a person’s spouse, I mean. I trust the people I interact with to manage their own relationships.
Not to say that I overlook someone breaking their relationship agreements — it’s just not my job to police them.
But that also does mean that I’m not gonna hide anything either, so there’s that. And I would take exception with being asked to lie (and in my world the dishonesty that is “make sure you don’t mention” counts) to someone’s spouse.
Rule of thumb: if you feel the need to post on reddit about a relationship that is less than a year old, you should break up, 100%. Plus your concerns are super valid and there many red flags that you'd be silly to ignore. Run and don't look back.
Religion is one of those dealbreakers in relationships. When you add kids to the mix, it’s really very hot to balance two different religions. You two are just not compatible.
We don’t have enough information to say if he’s a narcissist but we do know he’s a cheater. The best predator of future behavior is past behavior. Understand that he is putting you at risk for sexually transmitted diseases and heartache. Is that what you want? I’m sorry to be harsh. The question to ask is are you better off with him or without him?
he has already heard back from 2 schools, just waiting for the rest he applied to. i agree with you, i would’ve been there supporting him no matter what, but it just doesn’t sound like he wants that. very unfortunate but the truth. feel like the only reason why he reached out to talk & try things out again is to sleep with me.
Australia. The grant and tax savings can get up to 25k total.
If we can save that much on the next house I would be very happy. Even 4k is alot of disposable money to save /spend elsewhere
It's nice to see how excited you seem to be about this relationship. Best of luck! Not that you seem to need it haha
I try to understand who has time to go through their man’s instagram, or their SOs instagram to figure out who they are liking? And why does it matter so much? The pictures are just that, pictures. I like pictures all the time without any real feelings towards the pictures. It’s social media. I’m not great with Instagram, I can’t even figure out exactly what my friends LIKE without scrolling through names and checking to see if their names are in the list. It seems like a huge waste of time and energy.
Just don't “open up” your closed relationship! If You want a open relationship, then start it this way ffs.
Btw i am polyamorous myself, so no hate on that part.
Doesn't make sense for her to be pissed off!!
You were pissed off and not her!
Eh, it would feel really creepy and infantilizing to be “checking up” after someone like that. Going out of my way to have a conversation with a person’s spouse, I mean. I trust the people I interact with to manage their own relationships.
Not to say that I overlook someone breaking their relationship agreements — it’s just not my job to police them.
But that also does mean that I’m not gonna hide anything either, so there’s that. And I would take exception with being asked to lie (and in my world the dishonesty that is “make sure you don’t mention” counts) to someone’s spouse.
Sounds like he needs to be cut off
It's not always the parents.
Rule of thumb: if you feel the need to post on reddit about a relationship that is less than a year old, you should break up, 100%. Plus your concerns are super valid and there many red flags that you'd be silly to ignore. Run and don't look back.
Let them deal with it without your interference.
Ty for the info.
Ok… I’ll talk to her after she finishes uni
Religion is one of those dealbreakers in relationships. When you add kids to the mix, it’s really very hot to balance two different religions. You two are just not compatible.
We don’t have enough information to say if he’s a narcissist but we do know he’s a cheater. The best predator of future behavior is past behavior. Understand that he is putting you at risk for sexually transmitted diseases and heartache. Is that what you want? I’m sorry to be harsh. The question to ask is are you better off with him or without him?
he has already heard back from 2 schools, just waiting for the rest he applied to. i agree with you, i would’ve been there supporting him no matter what, but it just doesn’t sound like he wants that. very unfortunate but the truth. feel like the only reason why he reached out to talk & try things out again is to sleep with me.