my family is public. i cant unmask around them so it turns into meltdowns if we’ve been together for more than a few days that i try to hide. but with my best friends i dont mask and they dont mind so i never have to be in pain and since theyre also neurodivergent we just find accommodations for each other. they’re my family im fully comfortable with, not my blood family.
So you’ve got this good looking guy friend who you have a history with, who you also don’t want to bring around your BF because if you two ever break up, you want to be able to keep your relationship with this other guy without any entanglements? Are there any other plans you currently have for when you and your BF break up? Are there other guys who you have a relationship with that you place above your BF?
You can't fix nor change a person for who he is.
I don't think we have to tell you to break up. This thing is going to explode on you eventually anyway… But you already know that deep inside.
You are running on borrowed time and resentment is already starting to grow out.
The only way to fix this is overcome your own trauma's and accept his behavior.
But I don't know if I would want to accept someone acting like this in a relationship if it was me.
yes!! i’ve gotten this comment a lot and i think it’s a great idea, i’ll suggest the idea to him
my family is public. i cant unmask around them so it turns into meltdowns if we’ve been together for more than a few days that i try to hide. but with my best friends i dont mask and they dont mind so i never have to be in pain and since theyre also neurodivergent we just find accommodations for each other. they’re my family im fully comfortable with, not my blood family.
So you’ve got this good looking guy friend who you have a history with, who you also don’t want to bring around your BF because if you two ever break up, you want to be able to keep your relationship with this other guy without any entanglements? Are there any other plans you currently have for when you and your BF break up? Are there other guys who you have a relationship with that you place above your BF?
Can’t imagine why your BF is upset about this lol
Thanks for the advice. It's good advice 🙂