option 1 he’s being demanding in a way that implies future control/coparenting issues option 2 he has severe trauma related to academics that he wants to protect future children from but doesn’t know how to express that in a healthy way yet option 3????
not optional: him explaining what’s going on. good luck with future difficult conversations ahead, OP
You weren’t. Don’t listen to these people. You were short because not feeling well, this is on your wife for inviting an unexpected guest into your home without telling you then expecting you to jump in and entertain with her, not bothering to check in with you how you’re feeling after you laid down? Your wife is the AH. 100%. You are allowed to feel sick and take care of yourself. You don’t owe unexpected guests anything, that is on your wife.
Yes, his actions towards you as you explain them are absolutely abusive and hostile, and you should cut this person out of your life. These are not the actions of a friend, they are that of an enemy. I implore you to commit to exploring these issues with a therapist. It’s not your fault that you didn’t experience love as a child. But you are the only one who can break the toxic patterns governing your thoughts and behaviors and until you do, you won’t be happy. And you deserve to be happy.
Brad is a jackass, if you like Jake who the hell cares? He sounds like a decent guy you said he is funny and sweet. Grow up you are willing to miss out on what could be a wonderful relationship because “what would people think”. If you really can’t get over your own ego and need for the acceptance of jackasses then you shouldn’t purse Jake because frankly he deserves better than someone who cares so much about “status” or the opinions of others.
option 1 he’s being demanding in a way that implies future control/coparenting issues option 2 he has severe trauma related to academics that he wants to protect future children from but doesn’t know how to express that in a healthy way yet option 3????
not optional: him explaining what’s going on. good luck with future difficult conversations ahead, OP
You weren’t. Don’t listen to these people. You were short because not feeling well, this is on your wife for inviting an unexpected guest into your home without telling you then expecting you to jump in and entertain with her, not bothering to check in with you how you’re feeling after you laid down? Your wife is the AH. 100%. You are allowed to feel sick and take care of yourself. You don’t owe unexpected guests anything, that is on your wife.
Exactly. Thanks for clarifying my statement.
This is what they all told u?
Yes, his actions towards you as you explain them are absolutely abusive and hostile, and you should cut this person out of your life. These are not the actions of a friend, they are that of an enemy. I implore you to commit to exploring these issues with a therapist. It’s not your fault that you didn’t experience love as a child. But you are the only one who can break the toxic patterns governing your thoughts and behaviors and until you do, you won’t be happy. And you deserve to be happy.
I think you both need to seek counseling. I’m sorry about the panic attack
Brad is a jackass, if you like Jake who the hell cares? He sounds like a decent guy you said he is funny and sweet. Grow up you are willing to miss out on what could be a wonderful relationship because “what would people think”. If you really can’t get over your own ego and need for the acceptance of jackasses then you shouldn’t purse Jake because frankly he deserves better than someone who cares so much about “status” or the opinions of others.