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Nah fuck that. I'm tired of this “I didn't raise you like that” nonsense. Parents want all the credit for a good kid but dodge all accountability for shit kids.
He sexually assaulted you, which is illegal and obviously inappropriate.
It sounds like maybe he's done something like this before because his mom was so quick with a cover story and an apology.
My advice to you is to never be in a vulnerable situation with him present ever again, because someone who will assault you while you sleep is not safe to be around. This was already awful and who knows what he might do next time.
If you have access to a sexual assault crisis hotline, you could call them just to talk everything over. If you don't have that sort of access, it might be better to see if you can get therapy or discuss this with someone you trust who can support you (like your parents if you have a good relationship with them). Over time the feelings and emotions should get easier for you to handle as you process everything.
I am so sorry this happened to you and so disappointed that this guy has assaulted you š No one deserves that! You should be able to sleep safely anywhere you want, but especially at a trusted friend's home. It's no wonder you feel uncomfortable. That guy is a bad person.
With that whole laundry list of them clearly taking you for granted, using you and mocking you and you really think it is possible you are being selfish??? More correctly, you are through being taken advantage of.
ā¦.do you really not know what happened here? This entire story is example after example of you nit picking her and calling her out for things. You had only been dating for a few weeks and you seem to have so many times called her out for things, convinced her she was wrong, and expressed distaste for her actions. That is an absolutely horrible start to a relationship. It makes perfect sense why she ended it. She lost her feelings due to this constant stream of conflicts and probably also due to feeling like she couldnāt do anything right in your eyes.
Thanks for the additional information, itās filled in the blanks.
She is unwilling to communicate with you now that youāve developed communication skillsāthis creates a rift. Itās naked to grow individually and as a couple if yāall cannot resolve your problems. This is a valid reason to doubt your relationship.
It says a lot about how your gf reacted when you needed help; she dismissed your needs.
She has black and white thinking when it comes to solving problemsāthatās not healthy or realistic because one cannot 100% predict an outcome on most things in life. Thatās a great way to stay stagnant.
I think youāve simply lost the connection with her. Yāall haveāor at least you haveāoutgrown the relationship. We go through a lot of changes in our teens, even into our early 20s. A lot of people in their mid 20s finally develop a sense of ego and self. Nothing is āwrongā with your gf, itās just not a match.
I'm kidding, but it's okay. I can only imagine how much it hurts being let go from a play, but maybe it just wasn't right for you. Just say it didn't work out, you're disappointed, but you'll keep auditioning.
It's not “any time” they go on a vacation. We're talking about this specific trip where he will go with or without her. She's just asking him to give her a break this one specific time even though normally always go half on gas and snacks (she says this in the post or comments).
She can't afford it right now, this one time. As her man, he can't let that go? The money is more important than the presence of his girlfriend with him?
Also, is she ever driving the car? Do they ever go somewhere she wants to go that he doesn't? Is he ever using gas to drive her somewhere he wouldn't have gone but for being in a relationship with her?
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That's for sure! Thank u
Nah fuck that. I'm tired of this “I didn't raise you like that” nonsense. Parents want all the credit for a good kid but dodge all accountability for shit kids.
He sexually assaulted you, which is illegal and obviously inappropriate.
It sounds like maybe he's done something like this before because his mom was so quick with a cover story and an apology.
My advice to you is to never be in a vulnerable situation with him present ever again, because someone who will assault you while you sleep is not safe to be around. This was already awful and who knows what he might do next time.
If you have access to a sexual assault crisis hotline, you could call them just to talk everything over. If you don't have that sort of access, it might be better to see if you can get therapy or discuss this with someone you trust who can support you (like your parents if you have a good relationship with them). Over time the feelings and emotions should get easier for you to handle as you process everything.
I am so sorry this happened to you and so disappointed that this guy has assaulted you š No one deserves that! You should be able to sleep safely anywhere you want, but especially at a trusted friend's home. It's no wonder you feel uncomfortable. That guy is a bad person.
With that whole laundry list of them clearly taking you for granted, using you and mocking you and you really think it is possible you are being selfish??? More correctly, you are through being taken advantage of.
ā¦.do you really not know what happened here? This entire story is example after example of you nit picking her and calling her out for things. You had only been dating for a few weeks and you seem to have so many times called her out for things, convinced her she was wrong, and expressed distaste for her actions. That is an absolutely horrible start to a relationship. It makes perfect sense why she ended it. She lost her feelings due to this constant stream of conflicts and probably also due to feeling like she couldnāt do anything right in your eyes.
Thanks for the additional information, itās filled in the blanks.
She is unwilling to communicate with you now that youāve developed communication skillsāthis creates a rift. Itās naked to grow individually and as a couple if yāall cannot resolve your problems. This is a valid reason to doubt your relationship.
It says a lot about how your gf reacted when you needed help; she dismissed your needs.
She has black and white thinking when it comes to solving problemsāthatās not healthy or realistic because one cannot 100% predict an outcome on most things in life. Thatās a great way to stay stagnant.
I think youāve simply lost the connection with her. Yāall haveāor at least you haveāoutgrown the relationship. We go through a lot of changes in our teens, even into our early 20s. A lot of people in their mid 20s finally develop a sense of ego and self. Nothing is āwrongā with your gf, itās just not a match.
Say you left due to creative differences.
I'm kidding, but it's okay. I can only imagine how much it hurts being let go from a play, but maybe it just wasn't right for you. Just say it didn't work out, you're disappointed, but you'll keep auditioning.
It's not “any time” they go on a vacation. We're talking about this specific trip where he will go with or without her. She's just asking him to give her a break this one specific time even though normally always go half on gas and snacks (she says this in the post or comments).
She can't afford it right now, this one time. As her man, he can't let that go? The money is more important than the presence of his girlfriend with him?
Also, is she ever driving the car? Do they ever go somewhere she wants to go that he doesn't? Is he ever using gas to drive her somewhere he wouldn't have gone but for being in a relationship with her?