You should have mentioned the kids from the beginning.
They planned the trip together from the beginning. What did he think would happen with the kids if it wasn't take them along? Why should she be the one to plan what to do with them?
This may sound bad, but put your phone on speaker and mute it. Let him complain to his hearts content and watch a movie. Ignore him. He’s yelling into the void.
He’s a sad old man living the sad life of his own making. He’ll never own that, because he’s the victim. And to your point, you’re pretty much it relationship wise.
Let him ‘old man shouts at the sky’ himself into some comfort, but stop internalizing and feeling guilty about how his choices are effecting him, when he has never cared how his choices effect literally everyone.
Talk to him about it! Just be honest that you love knowing that he’s attracted to you, but you’re starting to feel like your conversations focus too much on your looks. Reassure him that you know he means well, but that it’s actually making you feel like your looks are the most important thing about you, and that’s been bumming you out. If he’s complimenting you to make you feel special, then this is very valuable feedback for him! He might not realize that his compliments can come across as objectifying and genuinely think he’s being sweet by giving you what our culture says women value.
I'm just going to say it seems pretty fucked up that you're apparently able to get the embryos without his approval. That feels like something that should straight up be illegal if it isn’t already.
From OP`s comments, the car was bought new, a couple of years ago. OP also regularly cleans and details her car. OP states that their friend circle is small, as they are „introverts“ and there have been no recent Hen/Bachelorette parties, so it is not likely from a Gag gift. OP seems hesitant to ask the question, as he is living in her apartment/home, and has no local support system outside his partner. OP said partner does have „toys“ but has not physically seen where their partner stores them. OP and partner dont use protection, due to partner not being able to get pregnant, and they don’t „travel the dirt road“. OP states that their partner does not let friends use her car.
When he threatens to kill himself when you serve him with divorce papers (and he will, he sounds like exactly the type), tell him that your sending a welfare check for him.
she can get tested again in case the results were actually mixed up with someone else.
What is your gut feeling? Is this a surprising situation? or do you guys already have problems and this explains it all?
Unfortunately too many bigots have changed the definition to be anything they disagree with.
That same commenter would likely call you a transphobe if OPs BF came out as trans.
We all support your right to choose and can also see that the choice you made was dumb as rocks
been together 2.5 years, have had the dogs both when they were 3 months old, so 1.5 years
You should have mentioned the kids from the beginning.
They planned the trip together from the beginning. What did he think would happen with the kids if it wasn't take them along? Why should she be the one to plan what to do with them?
This may sound bad, but put your phone on speaker and mute it. Let him complain to his hearts content and watch a movie. Ignore him. He’s yelling into the void.
He’s a sad old man living the sad life of his own making. He’ll never own that, because he’s the victim. And to your point, you’re pretty much it relationship wise.
Let him ‘old man shouts at the sky’ himself into some comfort, but stop internalizing and feeling guilty about how his choices are effecting him, when he has never cared how his choices effect literally everyone.
Talk to him about it! Just be honest that you love knowing that he’s attracted to you, but you’re starting to feel like your conversations focus too much on your looks. Reassure him that you know he means well, but that it’s actually making you feel like your looks are the most important thing about you, and that’s been bumming you out. If he’s complimenting you to make you feel special, then this is very valuable feedback for him! He might not realize that his compliments can come across as objectifying and genuinely think he’s being sweet by giving you what our culture says women value.
Talk to a therapist. You are young and will recover from this if you try.
Uhhh if you know houses in Toronto and surrounding area start at like 1.2 million.
I'm just going to say it seems pretty fucked up that you're apparently able to get the embryos without his approval. That feels like something that should straight up be illegal if it isn’t already.
From OP`s comments, the car was bought new, a couple of years ago. OP also regularly cleans and details her car. OP states that their friend circle is small, as they are „introverts“ and there have been no recent Hen/Bachelorette parties, so it is not likely from a Gag gift. OP seems hesitant to ask the question, as he is living in her apartment/home, and has no local support system outside his partner. OP said partner does have „toys“ but has not physically seen where their partner stores them. OP and partner dont use protection, due to partner not being able to get pregnant, and they don’t „travel the dirt road“. OP states that their partner does not let friends use her car.
When he threatens to kill himself when you serve him with divorce papers (and he will, he sounds like exactly the type), tell him that your sending a welfare check for him.