Yeah, not cool and actually quite disrespectful for you to make plans with some girl you just met without even checking with your wife if she’s comfortable with that. It seems like you have a hidden agenda. What could you possibly have to gain from a friendship with a 22/23 F if you have a wife at home. Seems sus.
I can't understand how he has the nerve to be mad. What did he expect to happen. You pull his jeans down, find what's NOT there and just carry on? You can be as accepting as hell but in this circumstance that waw not what you signed up for…
Borderline Personality is a trip- and no matter how empathetic / understanding / what you know about psychology- it's okay if this isn't your situation.
Your girlfriend is not making the effort to improve by going to therapy or seeking some form of treatment. You are not a medical professional, and you are not her medical professional so nothing you're doing is actually improving her- improving her is not within your power or control. People with BPD really can't be fixed, there's no magic pill or treatment that really works, it's mostly behavior modification and better at recognizing social cues if you can get the BPD person to admit they have a problem that should be treated- which is not likely. All you'll do is become more damaged.
The lies BPD people make up can be very dark- one BPD person I know has made a number of accusations of rape/sexual assault/molestation against a number of men- none of the accusations have any ring of truth to them.
Have you ever been on an airplane? They always tell you in the event the cabin looses pressure put on your own oxygen mask first. That's a good analogy for life: you're mental health is not doing well, get yourself worked out first.
Right now, you're codependent on her. People who have depression are very likely to choose drugs/alcohol/people to become addicted to. You chose her- and just like drugs/alcohol it's not an actual solution to your problem, it's just a coping mechanism. Take a break, go home and worry about yourself- get therapy for you.
How do you have casual flings or fwb if you are telling them you don’t want that? Obviously you are telling them that and then doing it anyway
Yeah, not cool and actually quite disrespectful for you to make plans with some girl you just met without even checking with your wife if she’s comfortable with that. It seems like you have a hidden agenda. What could you possibly have to gain from a friendship with a 22/23 F if you have a wife at home. Seems sus.
Oh man she's also into horses? I think we may have the same mom!
I can't understand how he has the nerve to be mad. What did he expect to happen. You pull his jeans down, find what's NOT there and just carry on? You can be as accepting as hell but in this circumstance that waw not what you signed up for…
Borderline Personality is a trip- and no matter how empathetic / understanding / what you know about psychology- it's okay if this isn't your situation.
Your girlfriend is not making the effort to improve by going to therapy or seeking some form of treatment. You are not a medical professional, and you are not her medical professional so nothing you're doing is actually improving her- improving her is not within your power or control. People with BPD really can't be fixed, there's no magic pill or treatment that really works, it's mostly behavior modification and better at recognizing social cues if you can get the BPD person to admit they have a problem that should be treated- which is not likely. All you'll do is become more damaged.
The lies BPD people make up can be very dark- one BPD person I know has made a number of accusations of rape/sexual assault/molestation against a number of men- none of the accusations have any ring of truth to them.
Have you ever been on an airplane? They always tell you in the event the cabin looses pressure put on your own oxygen mask first. That's a good analogy for life: you're mental health is not doing well, get yourself worked out first.
Right now, you're codependent on her. People who have depression are very likely to choose drugs/alcohol/people to become addicted to. You chose her- and just like drugs/alcohol it's not an actual solution to your problem, it's just a coping mechanism. Take a break, go home and worry about yourself- get therapy for you.
If you think she is too flirtatious, then she is. Also is it only flirting?
I mean I mentioned many times in the phone call that we are dating when me and him were on the call. It’s all very very strange I know.
She hasnt changed if shes willing to lie