Boundaries are not for controlling others but for what you allow in your space/life.
If he wants to have a boundary that his girlfriend wears only knee-length dresses, then he needs to find a woman with similar values.
If you wear dresses above the knee, you are not violating his boundaries. You are respecting your own.
Like, you can say, “My boundary is that no one dictates a dress code for me other than myself or my employer if I have to wear a uniform. I understand you do not approve of the length of my dresses. However, I love to wear these dresses, and if this is a violation of your moral values, understand this is where we must part ways.”
Sounds like a pretty petty thing to be upset over honestly..
Most likely because he is cheating with her.
N luckily I’m not single super hater
I would and have
I’m hoping you can work it out because at 19 with 4 kids, no single guy your age is going to want to date you, no offense.
Boundaries are not for controlling others but for what you allow in your space/life.
If he wants to have a boundary that his girlfriend wears only knee-length dresses, then he needs to find a woman with similar values.
If you wear dresses above the knee, you are not violating his boundaries. You are respecting your own.
Like, you can say, “My boundary is that no one dictates a dress code for me other than myself or my employer if I have to wear a uniform. I understand you do not approve of the length of my dresses. However, I love to wear these dresses, and if this is a violation of your moral values, understand this is where we must part ways.”
Your boyfriend sucks.