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Date: October 10, 2022
This guy sounds like one giant red flag. Why are you still with him?
I just give my cats the fluffy tops. They usually just lick them anyway.
Alcohol is a drug that inhibits our ability to assess risk. You were drinking, and assessed a low risk associated with going up to his room to continue “talking” and that is was more risky to continue talking at the bar. To sober people, that seems wildly foolish. To a drunk person whose ability to measure and assess risk has been negated, it seems fine. That was precisely his game, and he probably waited until you looked a little loopy before swooping in.
He tired to prey on you while you were drunk. He got you to say yes- to going to his room, but you snapped out of it once you stood up and walked to the desk. He almost got you. And by “got” I mean raped. It would have been sexual assault for him to sleep with you like that, and that was almost precisely his game.
You're grieving- and that comes with a storm of emotions- sadness (feeling guilty), anger (calling your actions stupidity), fear (shame), bargaining (that confession will help), acceptance (you seem resigned that this will be disastrous). You might have a little PTSD, as there is a lot of overlap between moral injury, grief, and PTSD.
You didn't almost cheat. You were almost raped. It isn't your fault he tried to convince you while drunk to go back to his room. It sounds like you should talk to your husband about this in a facilitated setting, like a couple's therapy, so someone can skillfully receive how both of you react to this conversation. Good luck.
The data doesn’t have to be faked. She was there and just so happened to take a similar amount of steps.
I tell my best friend every tiny detail about my life and she does the same with me. However, if my husband was bothered by this, I wouldn't do it. It's about respecting boundaries. You are completely okay to be upset with your boundaries being violated.
I’m guessing it’s not really about “X times per month” as much as it’s about the sexual energy between you and the feeling that she desires you and cares about your sex life.
I think minimum times per month is generally a last resort — a way of extracting a bare minimum amount of intercourse that typically leaves both parties feeling resentful and unsatisfied.
Am I correct that, if there were more natural sexual energy between you, if you guys had more physical affection, flirtation, and playfulness on a day-to-day basis, that the specific number of times you fuck each month would be less important? (I’m not saying unimportant, just trying to get at the hierarchy of concerns here).
I think in these “mismatched libido” situations, it’s most often the bigger picture that really matters. It’s not a big deal to have PiV sex a little less often than you’d like, IF you feel desired and attended to and cared about.
The most troubling thing in your post is the part where she rolls her eyes and seems to dismiss this whole issue and it’s importance to you. Like your needs are this annoying imposition on her.
We can’t magically make ourselves want sex, but we can adjust our attitudes around it. That might be a place to start: why does she roll her eyes? What outcome is she hoping for here? How, specifically, is she working on this? Does she need help? If she doesn’t think this will ever change, would she consider an open relationship so that you can be sexually fulfilled? Is that something you would even want?
The point isn’t to give her an ultimatum. The point is to make her aware that this absolutely is not going to just disappear if she ignores it long enough. You’re letting her know that you’re approaching that point, that this is the ‘come to Jesus’ moment in your relationship — if she can’t bring herself to have a brutally honest conversation about this, then you know it’s time to throw in the towel.
That’s my view anyway. I realize it’s not the clear instructions you might have hoped for, but I hope these reflections can be useful to you in your own thinking on this.
I have been this girlfriend before. This is it 100%. Home girl needs to work on her self esteem independent of the relationship.