I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year and would like to propose.
A year? That's pretty short period of time. Like, a very naively short period of time and you're both young. I get that a year feels like a long time to you but you're just at beginning stages here.
And you all almost recently broke up over differences in handling situations. This is early relationship stuff.
It is flippy floppy to say you want to spend the rest of your life with her no matter what, but not if there's a period of having to visit each other.
Multiple bouts of depression within a year that you're blaming on your GF's family? This sounds a bit like you're not able to handle the stress of adult life and balancing. This is definitely not a time to get married.
Her mom is overboard and protective, yes. I also think she sees how crazy fast you push things and is going overboard to make sure her daughter isn't hurt.
You need to wait another year minimum and make sure you two are in the same place regarding family. If you slowed down I bet the mom would calm down too. I don't know any parent that would be happy at the speed of the steps you described.
What do you want to do? Are you still planning to move back to the US? Why did she even tell you, is she trying to get back together with you? Were you using your own protection or just relying on her protection (such as the pill)? She is nervous of losing out on starting a family so she decided to start one without your permission, but also you should have been using protection (although mistakes can happen). Find out if the baby is yours, it's a common tactic to claim pregnancy just to try and make the relationship serious. This entire time she has been pushing you to get married and give her children, her pregnancy (fake or real) is another way to push you.
Bluntly, NO. Instead seek to regain rights to your property, dismiss his services from your business/finances and totally separate them. Seek a restraining order, if possible, to keep him away from you and your children. And ensure you are very LC/NC with him.
If you're uncomfortable with what's going on with your ex and your friend, you're absolutely entitled to cut them out of your life. That said, you're the one who made your ex single and your bff's boyfriend doesn't mind her stepping out so I don't get how anyone's “betraying” anyone else here.
What’s going to happen when he decides that he doesn’t like having to share your attention and affection with the baby? You should really do some actual research on this disorder.
Pick up an old or new hobby, go to places or events meant for making new friends, and most importantly let yourself feel whatever you need to fell don’t bury it.
Well, look at it this way. Are you feeling what you are feeling because you feel bad for your friend, or are you indirectly hurt by what happened to her?
Why would you want to create a moment of uneasiness between your boyfriend and yourself? In the end, you have to maintain the relationship between the two of you first.
What happened between your friend and her ex is between them. Would you want to hurt your friend further by giving her updates about her ex?
She is your friend, you can inform her about the get-together but do it after a few days. It gives you a certain time to prepare yourself on how to bring up the subject and how to handle the situation after.
And if your friend is better off not knowing about her ex, then you don't need to share that information. You can be there for your friend in other ways, and hugging your friend in times like these goes a long long way than words.
So I was like in your side and everything until I decide to come down and read the comments lol
that’s not the point, why didn’t you talk to her AFTER the phone call??
He is manipulating you and threatening you. Call the police to have them check on him and then block him from your life
it seems like a huge waste to throw them out 🙁
i also rolled my eyes at “psychopath” as well as the idea a sweatshirt is an “intimate gift”
That was my very first though “Oh dear God, a stripper got another one ?”
I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year and would like to propose.
A year? That's pretty short period of time. Like, a very naively short period of time and you're both young. I get that a year feels like a long time to you but you're just at beginning stages here.
And you all almost recently broke up over differences in handling situations. This is early relationship stuff.
It is flippy floppy to say you want to spend the rest of your life with her no matter what, but not if there's a period of having to visit each other.
Multiple bouts of depression within a year that you're blaming on your GF's family? This sounds a bit like you're not able to handle the stress of adult life and balancing. This is definitely not a time to get married.
Her mom is overboard and protective, yes. I also think she sees how crazy fast you push things and is going overboard to make sure her daughter isn't hurt.
You need to wait another year minimum and make sure you two are in the same place regarding family. If you slowed down I bet the mom would calm down too. I don't know any parent that would be happy at the speed of the steps you described.
What do you want to do? Are you still planning to move back to the US? Why did she even tell you, is she trying to get back together with you? Were you using your own protection or just relying on her protection (such as the pill)? She is nervous of losing out on starting a family so she decided to start one without your permission, but also you should have been using protection (although mistakes can happen). Find out if the baby is yours, it's a common tactic to claim pregnancy just to try and make the relationship serious. This entire time she has been pushing you to get married and give her children, her pregnancy (fake or real) is another way to push you.
Bluntly, NO. Instead seek to regain rights to your property, dismiss his services from your business/finances and totally separate them. Seek a restraining order, if possible, to keep him away from you and your children. And ensure you are very LC/NC with him.
Wow that was a long sentence.
Anyway, yes she's controlling and insecure and you shouldn't enable her.
If you're uncomfortable with what's going on with your ex and your friend, you're absolutely entitled to cut them out of your life. That said, you're the one who made your ex single and your bff's boyfriend doesn't mind her stepping out so I don't get how anyone's “betraying” anyone else here.
He’s jealous of your cat.
What’s going to happen when he decides that he doesn’t like having to share your attention and affection with the baby? You should really do some actual research on this disorder.
Pick up an old or new hobby, go to places or events meant for making new friends, and most importantly let yourself feel whatever you need to fell don’t bury it.
Well, look at it this way. Are you feeling what you are feeling because you feel bad for your friend, or are you indirectly hurt by what happened to her?
Why would you want to create a moment of uneasiness between your boyfriend and yourself? In the end, you have to maintain the relationship between the two of you first.
What happened between your friend and her ex is between them. Would you want to hurt your friend further by giving her updates about her ex?
She is your friend, you can inform her about the get-together but do it after a few days. It gives you a certain time to prepare yourself on how to bring up the subject and how to handle the situation after.
And if your friend is better off not knowing about her ex, then you don't need to share that information. You can be there for your friend in other ways, and hugging your friend in times like these goes a long long way than words.