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I made it clear I was severing all ties/ including his friends
You have actually made nothing clear. Maybe it is clear in your head but none of your actions have made this clean. If you want to sever all ties this is actually going to take some minimal action on your part. Leave the groups, ask them individually not to add you to groups with him. Currently you’re expecting them to be mind readers rather than taking the basic minimal steps. They do not know you do not want any dealings with them, it is really weird of you to assume they would think that following a breakup as you have likely known them for a number of years too.
Sorry you went through this, but if you’re driving a car you don’t normally drive it’s on you as the driver to be more careful cause your passenger isn’t driving, you are. That’s his first problem.
Second blaming you for his mistake, he should be apologizing to you for possibly damaging your car.
Third problem is yelling at you when you’re already emotional and not de escalating the situation himself. I could never see myself yelling at someone crying.
It looks bad from the outside cause it is bad. Maybe he just had a bad night, but he better come back and apologize. I know holidays are times when family members show why some people go to therapy. Maybe he needs some. Now that the dust has settled, if you feel comfortable talking with him about that night and how it happened and how it made you feel and see his response. Trust your gut, if his response makes you feel icky then trust that feeling and take the appropriate action.
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It sounds like he's dealing with some heavy stuff and that it's taking a toll on both of you. I feel you on the paycheck to paycheck thing, that's no joke.
First thing's first, it's not cool that he's hitting his head on the walls and talking about wanting to die. That's some serious red flags right there, bro. You did the right thing by trying to stop him and keeping an eye on him. And honestly, if he keeps acting like that and talking about wanting to die, you might want to consider calling a professional or even the authorities if it gets super bad.
But in terms of supporting him and trying to help him through this, I think it's really important that you are there for him and that you listen to him when he's talking. It sounds like he's dealing with a lot of trauma and that's really tough, so just being there and letting him know that you care and that you're there for him can go a long way.
Also, I'd recommend trying to get him to talk to a professional, like a therapist or counselor. I know he's had bad experiences with therapy before, but it's worth a shot. It's not healthy for him to be constantly turning to video games and weed to cope with his trauma and it's not healthy for you to be constantly dealing with his spiral.
Also, try to see if you can find a support group for him or for you. It can be helpful to talk to other people who are going through similar things and it can also be helpful for him to know that he's not alone in this.
But most importantly, just be there for him and let him know that you love him and care about him. It sounds like you two have a really strong bond and that you're best friends and that's really special, so try to hold onto that and keep working together to support each other through this tough time.
Just remember, always keep an open communication with your partner, this can help both of you to understand each other better, and work towards healing. Also, it is good to remember that you two are a team and you need to stick together, he is going through something and he needs your support and love. But, don't forget to take care of yourself too, this is a tough situation and it is important that you are healthy and happy as well. If you ever feel like it's too much and you need a break, don't hesitate to take one.
That’s a great option to consider. Thanks a lot, need to do all the calculations and see if I can offer the same.
She’s fluent in some other languages though.
I would’ve understood her unwillingness to lose everything, if she had something. But in reality she’s just a 22 years old person who just finished her studies and her current and entire work experience is only 6 months.
She doesn’t have mortgage, old parents nearby, long lasting and stable job, simply she doesn’t have anything to say that by relocating to France she would lose everything she has.
The only issue would be a language, right. But is this an impossible task?
He's being unreasonable. He's 31 throwing a tantrum because he's being hypocritical. Personally, I wouldn't talk to him for a while and maybe even consider taking him up on the offer of finding someone more suited to you. Or I'd stop updating him on what I'm doing and throw his words back at him. *note: that's fighting toxic behaviour back at toxic behaviour and is not grounds for a healthy relationship.
Sounds to me like he's projecting. He can be “controlling” with you but its “wrong” for you to hold him to his standards.
I made it clear I was severing all ties/ including his friends
You have actually made nothing clear. Maybe it is clear in your head but none of your actions have made this clean. If you want to sever all ties this is actually going to take some minimal action on your part. Leave the groups, ask them individually not to add you to groups with him. Currently you’re expecting them to be mind readers rather than taking the basic minimal steps. They do not know you do not want any dealings with them, it is really weird of you to assume they would think that following a breakup as you have likely known them for a number of years too.
Sorry you went through this, but if you’re driving a car you don’t normally drive it’s on you as the driver to be more careful cause your passenger isn’t driving, you are. That’s his first problem.
Second blaming you for his mistake, he should be apologizing to you for possibly damaging your car.
Third problem is yelling at you when you’re already emotional and not de escalating the situation himself. I could never see myself yelling at someone crying.
It looks bad from the outside cause it is bad. Maybe he just had a bad night, but he better come back and apologize. I know holidays are times when family members show why some people go to therapy. Maybe he needs some. Now that the dust has settled, if you feel comfortable talking with him about that night and how it happened and how it made you feel and see his response. Trust your gut, if his response makes you feel icky then trust that feeling and take the appropriate action.
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Nah it wasn't even a video of them fing ;D
What I'm upset about is that she even has videos like these. Didn't think it was normal for your partner to have videos saved of pasts relationships.
I find it very disrespectful for the ex and for me.
This isn’t real lmao, why do people keep writing shit like this in this sub?
It sounds like he's dealing with some heavy stuff and that it's taking a toll on both of you. I feel you on the paycheck to paycheck thing, that's no joke.
First thing's first, it's not cool that he's hitting his head on the walls and talking about wanting to die. That's some serious red flags right there, bro. You did the right thing by trying to stop him and keeping an eye on him. And honestly, if he keeps acting like that and talking about wanting to die, you might want to consider calling a professional or even the authorities if it gets super bad.
But in terms of supporting him and trying to help him through this, I think it's really important that you are there for him and that you listen to him when he's talking. It sounds like he's dealing with a lot of trauma and that's really tough, so just being there and letting him know that you care and that you're there for him can go a long way.
Also, I'd recommend trying to get him to talk to a professional, like a therapist or counselor. I know he's had bad experiences with therapy before, but it's worth a shot. It's not healthy for him to be constantly turning to video games and weed to cope with his trauma and it's not healthy for you to be constantly dealing with his spiral.
Also, try to see if you can find a support group for him or for you. It can be helpful to talk to other people who are going through similar things and it can also be helpful for him to know that he's not alone in this.
But most importantly, just be there for him and let him know that you love him and care about him. It sounds like you two have a really strong bond and that you're best friends and that's really special, so try to hold onto that and keep working together to support each other through this tough time.
Just remember, always keep an open communication with your partner, this can help both of you to understand each other better, and work towards healing. Also, it is good to remember that you two are a team and you need to stick together, he is going through something and he needs your support and love. But, don't forget to take care of yourself too, this is a tough situation and it is important that you are healthy and happy as well. If you ever feel like it's too much and you need a break, don't hesitate to take one.
That’s a great option to consider. Thanks a lot, need to do all the calculations and see if I can offer the same.
She’s fluent in some other languages though.
I would’ve understood her unwillingness to lose everything, if she had something. But in reality she’s just a 22 years old person who just finished her studies and her current and entire work experience is only 6 months.
She doesn’t have mortgage, old parents nearby, long lasting and stable job, simply she doesn’t have anything to say that by relocating to France she would lose everything she has.
The only issue would be a language, right. But is this an impossible task?
The fact that I don't want to read any of these posts tells me that this is exactly what I should be reading, and I will. Thank you.
I don't know, but I relate, so take my upvote
No need to be sorry. Just I am the only one commenting. Short posts with little to no detail just prompts people to move on.
He's being unreasonable. He's 31 throwing a tantrum because he's being hypocritical. Personally, I wouldn't talk to him for a while and maybe even consider taking him up on the offer of finding someone more suited to you. Or I'd stop updating him on what I'm doing and throw his words back at him. *note: that's fighting toxic behaviour back at toxic behaviour and is not grounds for a healthy relationship.
Sounds to me like he's projecting. He can be “controlling” with you but its “wrong” for you to hold him to his standards.
Just burst the bubble. You don’t want to do it, so don’t entertain it with him at all
Definitely a creep.
How long have you been married and did you date?
Why did you ignore the signs? Why weren’t the signs discussed early before marriage?