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Date: October 11, 2022
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I’ve worked for some really really shitty employers and I have never had a boss that wouldn’t allow me a minute or two to step away and check up on an SO going through an EMERGENCY procedure.
I don't have a therapist but I do want one. It's a matter of not having the right insurance at the moment. :/
When we first met, we spent a good deal of time together but he got me to notice him as being special when he would constantly mention him and I have the same birthday. It was like he wanted me to know we have a connection, and to not forget it. I think it is a fun connection but it flew over my head that he thought about that and the meaning of that. Moments like that show his maturity.
I know you're trying to ask us to set the age gap aside but I think a lot of these issues are a direct result of the age gap and where you're at in your life in comparison to him. I'm gonna share my story with you.
When I was 22 I started dating a 27 year old. I was focused on getting back in school and getting my life back on track after leaving an abusive relationship with a man I'd lived with since i was 19. He was 27 with a full time job, a degree, and was looking towards the next stage in his life.
Within the first year there were problems. I'd made it very clear from the beginning i had no intention of living with him anytime soon, CERTAINLY not signing a lease with him. I'd done the “move in too soon” story and I wasn't about to replay that nightmare again anytime soon. Regardless, 6 months in he was telling me he “expected” us to be living together within the following 6 months. I told him he could pound sand so he eventually moved into a space on his own that he paid rent on and I shared the utilities/groceries when I moved in later.
We also had a lot of issues with things related to me going back to school. He wanted to go to Japan before he turned 30 and wanted me to save thousands of dollars up to go with him. Which if I was in the same stage of life as him would have been reasonable and easy, but I was a full time college student with a part time job and bills of my own to pay. I'd also made it VERY clear I didn't want to see an engagement ring until I was out of school, which he rankled at and later flat out ignored when he asked my dad's permission to propose knowing I was more than a year out from the end of school.
He also expected to know where I was at any time. If I was leaving work and missed a call because I was chatting with a friend for a half hour, he'd call another 6 times and text asking where I was. Sure, he had anxiety, but I was 25. Too old to have someone keeping tabs on me and too young to have someone that level of worried about where I was and when I'd be home.
At 26 I broke up with him and started dating someone who was 24. You'd be amazed at the difference it makes being in the same stage in life as your partner. I went to England for 2 weeks with my best friend without him. I could go out without having to check in. I got to behave like a mid-20s person for the first time and it was so freeing. And this relationship has grown with us. I'm now 30 and we live together with a cat. We do more adult couple things but we still have our own lives. We sat together on the couch the other night discussing what a proposal might look like and how we want our marriage to be structured when we get there. Neither one of us feels like we're being rushed into that stage of our lives because we had the space to grow together into the next stage.
It definitely feels like this relationship isn't serving you in the way you need now. And thats ok. One of the parts of growing up is learning a relationship doesn't need to be “bad” for it not to serve you, and that that's a completely reasonable justification for ending it. Several of my friends found dating SO much easier after reaching that realization and many of us found that the next partner we dated following that was the one we expect to be with for the long haul.
You're 25. You're too young to feel stuck like this already and I applaud you for wanting to find the most kind way to get to the freedom you need.
I'm really confused on how he's feeling
Well you'll find out that answer when you have the chat.
No idea whether you'll work it out or break up. None of us are going to be able to answer that with any certainty.
This wont assuage your fear but you're painting this other person as a crutch and a fallback. You may be the fallback. You ditched him after 3.5 years for space… maybe that was 50/50 but he was free and moved on swift.
So perhaps he came back because 3.5 years worth of feelings don't get nuked easily. Then you went away for a week and he had a perspective moment of “Holy fuck, what am I doing, she broke my heart and there's this amazing person right here… etc…”
If you had time apart to clear your heads that'd be one thing, but, based on your own words, you broke up. Breaking up is a final thing, even if it does end up in getting together again.
Yes, that's what I plan to do since i can't break it in a go. I'm mentally preparing myself to consider this relationship over, but stick with it until she atleast finds someone whom she can trust to help her out. It's going to be hot.
She's in the last year of her PhD and trying to complete. So, it's not possible given the experimental nature of her work.
I know and she’s saying stuff like her bf wants to fight my bf now because he’s mad my boyfriend made life more difficult for them. They are adult children.
Hmm ok, well just know you're valid for how you feel. So you should just start by bringing it up but always do “i” statements because if you say YOU DONT or YOU DO THIS it makes the other person think you're being accusing. Using I statements like “I don't feel comfortable with this type of work you do” she will probably either get upset at first or taken back. Then continue tell her “I feel very ___ in our closed relationship” I hope this helps but remember if you say nothing she will never know.
Look, I am an old wizened crone of 32, but let me tell you my story. I had a boyfriend at 23 who broke up with me because he needed to do some work on himself. The relationship had been really really good up until that point and I was pretty devastated. We stayed friends, occasionally hooked up, stopped being friends, became friends again, matched on a dating app, dated other people, but mostly stayed friends.
7 years went by, and we spent our 20s growing, changing, loving, adventuring, learning, and living our lives. Well, a couple of years ago he says to me “hey let’s give this another try.” We date, it’s awesome, now we’re getting married and we have a tiny stupid dog together. It’s pretty cool.
You’re 23. He is not the right person for this time. You’re not the right person for him at this time. Go let him grow and do your own growing. If it’s meant to be, it will be. You can always get back together, but you can’t take back time spent miserable in the wrong relationship.
Thank you for being the parent your daughter needs and deserves!!
All I can go on is assumption since we don't have all of the facts.
I mean, you could just not assume in the first place then.
You aren't trying to provide advice in this thread, merely critique based on assumption. OP's already stated this isn't what they meant by the term, so why press them on it? Just trying to prove a point?