Drop her. If she was that excited about dating you exclusively this would not even cross her mind. Don't complicate your life and justify why, the first time someone shows you their true colors believe them.
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Drop her. If she was that excited about dating you exclusively this would not even cross her mind. Don't complicate your life and justify why, the first time someone shows you their true colors believe them.
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Cool this was a nice conversation
I would reccomend talking to a therapist before ending the relationship.
Especially at wanting to have him come say bye to her parents. Even as an adult who lives with parents it'd be a lot weirder to even consider that
Look for a somatic therapist
This is exactly the kind of issues to work out with one
So what has your relationship been like for those last 3 years
Yeah I did think that, but my ex (who was abusive) had avoidant attachment and he was never heavy pursuit, or affectionate or warm. And when we argued he would want to avoid conflict and leave till it settled. Whereas this guy always would jump to come see me, he was never able to leave things unfixed etc etc. so if anything he seemed anxious to me. I certainly don’t want back and forth to continue. Abandonment is my biggest fear, I’ve actually never been left before either. Could it just be that he’s very inexperienced? This is his first serious relationship.