Nike has this slogan called “JUST DO IT” and I suggest you take a page out of their book and tip of the band aid. Or ya know you can just go another two year miserable and alone while I’m a relationship. up to YOU.
Well we can't really give you actual advice on how to go forward from this on either relationship if you're keeping out key details..
I would say your girlfriend has every right to be upset. Also your friend is very strange to even mention a one night stand that happened literally years ago for no reason…unless that is one of the “reasons” you're not willing to mention.
somebody in the comments said she’ll end up a single mother and miserable. I feel like that’s what’s going to end up happening not with me but with her. And that’s messed up
Same!! My husband grew up in a household with shouting and verbal and physical abuse. Not once has he ever used that as an excuse for shitty behavior.
I mean he used to get bottles broken over his head. And he has never so much as raises his voice to me.
U can't excuse bad behavior and ontop of it not even wanting to address that behavior and getting defensive when its pointed out like he didn't so anyone wrong..
That's just messed up and it won't get better. U can say it only started recently as much as u want OP. But it's gonna continue. How much is gonna be enough?
When u lost all ur friends and sit in a corner everyday crying because he's on a shouting rant again because u asked to have a normal conversation about ur relationship?
Exactly. Maybe not extended family, but his parents would certainly be aware of his issues. If he behaves like this as an adult there's no way he could have hidden his reactions as a child.
No, because the sky is just blue. That's a fact. It's not a fact that you need the governments approval for a happy and long relationship with somebody you love. There are pretty easy ways around the practicality problem. Advanced directives, wills, PoA, etc.
Nike has this slogan called “JUST DO IT” and I suggest you take a page out of their book and tip of the band aid. Or ya know you can just go another two year miserable and alone while I’m a relationship. up to YOU.
there's no nice way to ask this but- aren't communications degrees like.. worthless? lmao
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Well we can't really give you actual advice on how to go forward from this on either relationship if you're keeping out key details..
I would say your girlfriend has every right to be upset. Also your friend is very strange to even mention a one night stand that happened literally years ago for no reason…unless that is one of the “reasons” you're not willing to mention.
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“I never wanted to break up”
Then “we should see other people” is a horrible way to go about it. Either you did so out of ignorance or as a bluff. And she called your bluff.
If you are willing to play second fiddle then that's on you because she's clearly laid out who's more important.
You have an issue with their closeness… they said they both “understand” and… now they on-line together in another city apart from you.
Either that's a deal breaker for you… or you need to come to terms and beg for her back.
I'm not a fan of abasing yourself like that. I think you deserve better.
But you do you my man. Good luck.
somebody in the comments said she’ll end up a single mother and miserable. I feel like that’s what’s going to end up happening not with me but with her. And that’s messed up
Yes this seems to be the logical answer.
If she thinks she's old enough & mature enough to go through with the pregnancy and have a child, then she's old enough to tell her father.
I thought about all of these things, she has communicated today that I’ve apparently been “a cheap ass” with her since date 3 a year ago.
Same!! My husband grew up in a household with shouting and verbal and physical abuse. Not once has he ever used that as an excuse for shitty behavior.
I mean he used to get bottles broken over his head. And he has never so much as raises his voice to me.
U can't excuse bad behavior and ontop of it not even wanting to address that behavior and getting defensive when its pointed out like he didn't so anyone wrong..
That's just messed up and it won't get better. U can say it only started recently as much as u want OP. But it's gonna continue. How much is gonna be enough?
When u lost all ur friends and sit in a corner everyday crying because he's on a shouting rant again because u asked to have a normal conversation about ur relationship?
You don't expect her to be a housewife then you don't get housewife privileges…like offloading all of the housework and cooking responsibilities!!!
He's literally using you to masturbate at that point. It's seems not even an exchange either.
Exactly. Maybe not extended family, but his parents would certainly be aware of his issues. If he behaves like this as an adult there's no way he could have hidden his reactions as a child.
He's a grown man who needs to learn to cook, and it's not OP's job to teach or motivate him.
No, because the sky is just blue. That's a fact. It's not a fact that you need the governments approval for a happy and long relationship with somebody you love. There are pretty easy ways around the practicality problem. Advanced directives, wills, PoA, etc.