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Then I suggest you talk to a therapist about increasingly intrusive negative thoughts. And before you tell my why this isn’t an option now because of money, location, time, etc. let me point out that there are free services, self-help books of decent quality and public libraries.
I really thought of him as a safe place and a really important person in my life I'd never thought for a second that he'd think of me like that it was really a slap on my face, it does make sense when u put it that way thnx dear he wasn't really a friend since a while i just didn't see it
So as one trans man to another, its best if you leave. For both of you.
I would also keep in mind that your mind could change, again. You mention being pre-T and some dudes feel better about their bottom dysphoria post-T, maybe then you wont want surgery. Or maybe you will. You still have so much time to determine these things.
But your partner doesnt like dicks. Does he like MEN at all? Who is to say he wont leave if you start T and your clitoris grows in size?
Either way, you gotta do whats best for you. Most partners are temporary in our lives but your body is stuck with you till death, might as well make it one you like and not compromise for someone who may not be around forever?
So as one trans man to another, its best if you leave. For both of you.
I would also keep in mind that your mind could change, again. You mention being pre-T and some dudes feel better about their bottom dysphoria post-T, maybe then you wont want surgery. Or maybe you will. You still have so much time to determine these things.
But your partner doesnt like dicks. Does he like MEN at all? Who is to say he wont leave if you start T and your clitoris grows in size?
Either way, you gotta do whats best for you. Most partners are temporary in our lives but your body is stuck with you till death, might as well make it one you like and not compromise for someone who may not be around forever?
Girl, you literally posted pictures of your most private physical part on public forums on the internet for everyone to see. Talking about a small piece of your “personal” (not so personal if part of it literally includes the internet) life that is relevant to the story is somehow more dangerous than posting porn of yourself? Give me a B R E A K.
She is thinking that way about it. It's why I put it in quotation marks. She also says he will refuse to wear one and a huge fight will happen. Coercion is abusive.
You totally get it. I was HAPPILY married for a long time. He thought I was a beautiful woman. Certainly, not ac over model but a person of character and a soul he loved. Until his dying breath he would have picked me over anyone else.
If you’re both willing to work on your relationship short term couples therapy may be helpful. Even a couple sessions with a couples therapist may help bring to light underlying factors in your relationship that has effected your dynamic in your relationship.
You may also learn that it is best that you break up.
Going to therapy isn’t a guarantee of a successful relationship, but at least you you can say you tried.
You have to stop projecting your insecurities into her. You are looking for every miniscule thing that indicates the slightest chance she maaaaaaybe cheated… almost like you want to find her cheating. Imagine how exhausting that is for her. Constantly having to deal with a partner who doesn't trust her. You're going to push her away if you continue like this. And there is no reason she should ever feel life she can't even text a guy back unless you're there to supervise. That's not right. Have an open phone policy if you want, but what you're doing now is too far. It's possible her family pointed out that she shouldn't constantly have to be proving her loyalty despite not doing anything. If you have proof she's cheating, then leave. If not, you need to learn how to trust her.
Recommend you try to take yourself out of this situation to the degree possible. Having friends is great, even when they're essentially penpals who live in another country. But even if you lived next door to this person your interest in this would be too much. People will make mistakes and in the case of this friend pretty major mistakes. Obviously the best scenario would be for her to separate completely from this noncommittal “boyfriend” and either end the pregnancy or put the baby up for adoption. But people are allowed to mess up their own lives to the degree they wish to. It's unfortunate that apparently your friend is going to screw up a child's life. However, there's just not much you can do about this so your best bet is to try to not be so emotionally involved in someone else's self destructive behavior.
Then I suggest you talk to a therapist about increasingly intrusive negative thoughts. And before you tell my why this isn’t an option now because of money, location, time, etc. let me point out that there are free services, self-help books of decent quality and public libraries.
Lmao ya I’m very confused here
I dunno. Saying you respond similarly but wouldn’t blow up and say such things. Sounds like you would in fact not respond similarly.
I really thought of him as a safe place and a really important person in my life I'd never thought for a second that he'd think of me like that it was really a slap on my face, it does make sense when u put it that way thnx dear he wasn't really a friend since a while i just didn't see it
Leave her, she regrets nothing.
So as one trans man to another, its best if you leave. For both of you.
I would also keep in mind that your mind could change, again. You mention being pre-T and some dudes feel better about their bottom dysphoria post-T, maybe then you wont want surgery. Or maybe you will. You still have so much time to determine these things.
But your partner doesnt like dicks. Does he like MEN at all? Who is to say he wont leave if you start T and your clitoris grows in size?
Either way, you gotta do whats best for you. Most partners are temporary in our lives but your body is stuck with you till death, might as well make it one you like and not compromise for someone who may not be around forever?
So as one trans man to another, its best if you leave. For both of you.
I would also keep in mind that your mind could change, again. You mention being pre-T and some dudes feel better about their bottom dysphoria post-T, maybe then you wont want surgery. Or maybe you will. You still have so much time to determine these things.
But your partner doesnt like dicks. Does he like MEN at all? Who is to say he wont leave if you start T and your clitoris grows in size?
Either way, you gotta do whats best for you. Most partners are temporary in our lives but your body is stuck with you till death, might as well make it one you like and not compromise for someone who may not be around forever?
Girl, you literally posted pictures of your most private physical part on public forums on the internet for everyone to see. Talking about a small piece of your “personal” (not so personal if part of it literally includes the internet) life that is relevant to the story is somehow more dangerous than posting porn of yourself? Give me a B R E A K.
She is thinking that way about it. It's why I put it in quotation marks. She also says he will refuse to wear one and a huge fight will happen. Coercion is abusive.
You totally get it. I was HAPPILY married for a long time. He thought I was a beautiful woman. Certainly, not ac over model but a person of character and a soul he loved. Until his dying breath he would have picked me over anyone else.
If you’re both willing to work on your relationship short term couples therapy may be helpful. Even a couple sessions with a couples therapist may help bring to light underlying factors in your relationship that has effected your dynamic in your relationship.
You may also learn that it is best that you break up.
Going to therapy isn’t a guarantee of a successful relationship, but at least you you can say you tried.
You have to stop projecting your insecurities into her. You are looking for every miniscule thing that indicates the slightest chance she maaaaaaybe cheated… almost like you want to find her cheating. Imagine how exhausting that is for her. Constantly having to deal with a partner who doesn't trust her. You're going to push her away if you continue like this. And there is no reason she should ever feel life she can't even text a guy back unless you're there to supervise. That's not right. Have an open phone policy if you want, but what you're doing now is too far. It's possible her family pointed out that she shouldn't constantly have to be proving her loyalty despite not doing anything. If you have proof she's cheating, then leave. If not, you need to learn how to trust her.
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Recommend you try to take yourself out of this situation to the degree possible. Having friends is great, even when they're essentially penpals who live in another country. But even if you lived next door to this person your interest in this would be too much. People will make mistakes and in the case of this friend pretty major mistakes. Obviously the best scenario would be for her to separate completely from this noncommittal “boyfriend” and either end the pregnancy or put the baby up for adoption. But people are allowed to mess up their own lives to the degree they wish to. It's unfortunate that apparently your friend is going to screw up a child's life. However, there's just not much you can do about this so your best bet is to try to not be so emotionally involved in someone else's self destructive behavior.
Your answer was fine and your instinct to change the subject was also good.