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I met my partner when I was 20, he was in his 30s and married. He approached me when I was alone in a bar, semi-drunk and sad. We hooked up after. It took him a few weeks to tell me he’s married.
Seven years later we are still together. I love him very much. He is even on good terms with his ex.
I asked my partner about why he approached me that night in the bar whilst married and what made him approach someone that much younger. At first he answered my questions then got bothered because he said I’m accusing him of grooming. Now I have ruined Valentine’s Day.
How can we discuss this fairly now that I’m older? Knowing what I know now I wouldn’t date an older man like this if I could go back in time. But we are happy now but I want to be able to discuss this with him. How?
Talking to an ex without your current partners consent is always a relationship killer.
So cheating once is okay then? I can ask the same question. Wtf is wrong with you people thinking cheating is a “mistake”, a whim of age and should automatically be excused? Yes, this guy should have never tead the journal. But I can't say I'd want to be with a person who still can't get over their ex after 20 damn years.
No. Fooling around with some dude 2 weeks after becoming exclusive is.
Seriously, do you people even read the OP? Or are you just here to excuse any bad behaviour from her?
She’s made it clear that she does not want to see the proposal coming and that she wants both of our families there. So I have to plan with her family without her knowing, or she’ll see it coming.