As well as you know each other there are things you forgot or haven't paid attention to, or that you think you know about each other that have changed. So go back to the beginning, the time of discovering your partner. Tell her you want to start over, and ask her on a date. (No movies) Tell here we're going to pretend we're on a first date and just getting to know one another for the first time and to please just go with it. Get dressed up nice with a fresh haircut and do what you would do to impress a girl you really like, as if it was the first time she went out with you. Clean out your car, open the door for her, bring flowers, give her compliments throughout the evening. Ask what the name of her perfume is (even if you already know and you bought it for her), pretend both know nothing about one another.
I've done this with my partner when time weren't tough and it was fun and I learned some things I thought I had known but didn't.
Google a list of things to talk about on a first date to get to know someone, and just let the conversation flow.
At the end of the evening walk her to the door, tell her you had a wonderful time and would like to take her out again, and if you're feeling a vibe, ask her if you may kiss her.
My husband got invited in for coffee. We don't drink coffee at night. ?
Afterwards talk about treating each other with the tenderness and kindness of new love. When your relationship is something you see as fragile and wonderful and worthy of cherishing.
I wanted my first husband to do this with me but he said, “You get married so you don't have to date anymore.” I should have seen this for the lack of attention to the relationship that it was because my 10 year with him wre never as good as the first 6 months.
My current partner and I cherish and nurture the romance and joy at having found each other. We celebrate the rarity of what we have. We treat each other with kindness and lift one another up at every opportunity. It's been 13 years and I still get buttflies when he opens my door for me or tells me I look pretty.
Love cannot exist in a vacuum. It needs light and air and frequent tending.
Advice – put your child first instead of your hurt feelings.
And ask yourself (and answer honestly), who has been the primary care-giver for your child?
And – who, if you split up, will be the primary care-giver for your child?
If the answer is gf, then perhaps she should continue this, in the only home your child knows, until you can completely split your assets fairly and both move on. Surely him going to bed and waking up in the only home he knows 5 out of 7 is better than the opposite?
I know it Hurts – but breakups with children happen to millions of us. We survive and thrive, but depending on your actions right now, you can minimise a lot of pain by putting kiddo’s needs first.
I believe there are lookouts near the bridge. Maybe take the car to one of the overlooks near sunset and do there?
Yup. Damn OP… kick her out man. She’s cheating. Geez.
As well as you know each other there are things you forgot or haven't paid attention to, or that you think you know about each other that have changed. So go back to the beginning, the time of discovering your partner. Tell her you want to start over, and ask her on a date. (No movies) Tell here we're going to pretend we're on a first date and just getting to know one another for the first time and to please just go with it. Get dressed up nice with a fresh haircut and do what you would do to impress a girl you really like, as if it was the first time she went out with you. Clean out your car, open the door for her, bring flowers, give her compliments throughout the evening. Ask what the name of her perfume is (even if you already know and you bought it for her), pretend both know nothing about one another.
I've done this with my partner when time weren't tough and it was fun and I learned some things I thought I had known but didn't.
Google a list of things to talk about on a first date to get to know someone, and just let the conversation flow.
At the end of the evening walk her to the door, tell her you had a wonderful time and would like to take her out again, and if you're feeling a vibe, ask her if you may kiss her.
My husband got invited in for coffee. We don't drink coffee at night. ?
Afterwards talk about treating each other with the tenderness and kindness of new love. When your relationship is something you see as fragile and wonderful and worthy of cherishing.
I wanted my first husband to do this with me but he said, “You get married so you don't have to date anymore.” I should have seen this for the lack of attention to the relationship that it was because my 10 year with him wre never as good as the first 6 months.
My current partner and I cherish and nurture the romance and joy at having found each other. We celebrate the rarity of what we have. We treat each other with kindness and lift one another up at every opportunity. It's been 13 years and I still get buttflies when he opens my door for me or tells me I look pretty.
Love cannot exist in a vacuum. It needs light and air and frequent tending.
You absolutely have a point. He’s the one that’s in the relationship. Glare at him, OP, but make sure you show up for that session!
Advice – put your child first instead of your hurt feelings.
And ask yourself (and answer honestly), who has been the primary care-giver for your child?
And – who, if you split up, will be the primary care-giver for your child?
If the answer is gf, then perhaps she should continue this, in the only home your child knows, until you can completely split your assets fairly and both move on. Surely him going to bed and waking up in the only home he knows 5 out of 7 is better than the opposite?
I know it Hurts – but breakups with children happen to millions of us. We survive and thrive, but depending on your actions right now, you can minimise a lot of pain by putting kiddo’s needs first.
Good luck