You’re 19 long distance isn’t working out, and it sounds like she wants to break up anyway.
The “A guy hit on me and I would have if I was single” isn’t a red flag, people talk like that to their friends, the fax that she didn’t shows she at least values the “sanctity” of your relationship.
But she also doesn’t see the relationship going anywhere if she’s talking about breaking up with you.
You are both 19, and you are growing up, I’m guessing you got together in school, and after a little time at uni you are both growing up, and discovering that the reason you were together is because the list of available partners was limited by your environment.
Like if you lived in a McDonald’s, the Big Mac might be the best thing on the menu, but suddenly you visit the mall, and sure McDonalds is there… But maybe you like fried chicken, you couldn’t get that at McDonalds, but the food court has unlimited eating options… Some people might still want a Big Mac, others might got for the chicken, or got to another mall entirely.
I just consulted said female friend to tell her how I’ve been feeling and see if it’s worth sending a message at least. She basically informed me my ex has verbalized my inaction was the best thing to ever happen to her or else she would have never moved to the West Coast and met him. She said he matches her in humor, wit, interests and is absolutely crazy about her and doesn’t let her forget it. I think I’m coming down to reality now.
In some states, you not removing the dad from the equation could make you culpable in child endangerment!!! You are legally responsible from your son and they will see it as negligence if you do nothing and this gets out otherwise. You NEED TO get out ahead of this disaster and get full custody. There are resources for domestic abuse victims, which you and your son are.
Idk, something about pausing a show/movie and lecturing you like a child for doing a perfectly human thing screams control issues to me. I’m not understanding her angle. If it were about politeness she wouldn’t burp in front of you, if it were about smell she also wouldn’t be burping in front of you. You aren’t in public you’re in your shared home with your relatively long term partner. I know it’s lame but when I come across stuff like this I like to switch the genders around to see if it changes anything and I gotta tell you, I’ve seen a lot of Reddit posts about girls farting and their boyfriends acting in similar ways and people side with the girl 9/10.
I diente read past the 3rd or 4th sentence where he calls you toxic after he cheated on you. Nobody should put up with that childishness, and if you value yourself and your mental health you would leave this situation.
Unless you’ve been with this person for years and have kids/property together it’s not worth it. Let go, learn from it, heal, and move on.
The longer you stay the harder it will be. Relationships start from square one. After cheating, you start from -100. And he’s not even mature enough to recognize that after cheating, even if you are being controlling, it’s as a result of his actions. He doesn’t have a say in your boundaries if he wants to be with you. And you shouldn’t allow him to make you question yourself about your boundaries in this broken relationship.
You’re 19 long distance isn’t working out, and it sounds like she wants to break up anyway.
The “A guy hit on me and I would have if I was single” isn’t a red flag, people talk like that to their friends, the fax that she didn’t shows she at least values the “sanctity” of your relationship.
But she also doesn’t see the relationship going anywhere if she’s talking about breaking up with you.
You are both 19, and you are growing up, I’m guessing you got together in school, and after a little time at uni you are both growing up, and discovering that the reason you were together is because the list of available partners was limited by your environment.
Like if you lived in a McDonald’s, the Big Mac might be the best thing on the menu, but suddenly you visit the mall, and sure McDonalds is there… But maybe you like fried chicken, you couldn’t get that at McDonalds, but the food court has unlimited eating options… Some people might still want a Big Mac, others might got for the chicken, or got to another mall entirely.
I just consulted said female friend to tell her how I’ve been feeling and see if it’s worth sending a message at least. She basically informed me my ex has verbalized my inaction was the best thing to ever happen to her or else she would have never moved to the West Coast and met him. She said he matches her in humor, wit, interests and is absolutely crazy about her and doesn’t let her forget it. I think I’m coming down to reality now.
“I need to talk to you about the exchange we had ocer your Christmas gift. It’s really bugging me.”
In some states, you not removing the dad from the equation could make you culpable in child endangerment!!! You are legally responsible from your son and they will see it as negligence if you do nothing and this gets out otherwise. You NEED TO get out ahead of this disaster and get full custody. There are resources for domestic abuse victims, which you and your son are.
Does he have anything of yours at his place? If so, bring a print-out of the screenshot or just send the texts after you have your stuff back.
Idk, something about pausing a show/movie and lecturing you like a child for doing a perfectly human thing screams control issues to me. I’m not understanding her angle. If it were about politeness she wouldn’t burp in front of you, if it were about smell she also wouldn’t be burping in front of you. You aren’t in public you’re in your shared home with your relatively long term partner. I know it’s lame but when I come across stuff like this I like to switch the genders around to see if it changes anything and I gotta tell you, I’ve seen a lot of Reddit posts about girls farting and their boyfriends acting in similar ways and people side with the girl 9/10.
I diente read past the 3rd or 4th sentence where he calls you toxic after he cheated on you. Nobody should put up with that childishness, and if you value yourself and your mental health you would leave this situation.
Unless you’ve been with this person for years and have kids/property together it’s not worth it. Let go, learn from it, heal, and move on.
The longer you stay the harder it will be. Relationships start from square one. After cheating, you start from -100. And he’s not even mature enough to recognize that after cheating, even if you are being controlling, it’s as a result of his actions. He doesn’t have a say in your boundaries if he wants to be with you. And you shouldn’t allow him to make you question yourself about your boundaries in this broken relationship.