Look, relationships of any kind won't work if you're not at least comfortable enough to put forth equal effort. It's not always 50/50 and in all honesty it rarely is because that's what partnership is. Growth from each other. One needs to be strong when the other is weak and vice versa. If he couldn't maintain his end of a friendship, you are justified so long as you feel you gave it your all only to have it used then threw back at ya. You can't have a partnership of any kind by yourself. Sometimes time is needed, sometimes that time is forever. It's always sad to lose a friend, to lose one that is super close is the worst.
Your bf doesn't want a child now. Even if it were only because he's emotionally unavailable, that's enough for him to know he's not ready for parenthood. Remember that it happens also in seasoned couples, with children: one can still not want a child. And a child has a right to fully committed parents. If you want to go ahead with the pregnancy, by all means do so, knowing that your bf might just provide financial support. It's also possible that an abortion might end the relationship, you might feel forced to go through it, doubt his commitment to you, etc. If that happens, like it often does after a miscarriage or the loss of a child, it's sad, but it's what it is
Or that she's cheating/has cheated and is projecting.
Look, relationships of any kind won't work if you're not at least comfortable enough to put forth equal effort. It's not always 50/50 and in all honesty it rarely is because that's what partnership is. Growth from each other. One needs to be strong when the other is weak and vice versa. If he couldn't maintain his end of a friendship, you are justified so long as you feel you gave it your all only to have it used then threw back at ya. You can't have a partnership of any kind by yourself. Sometimes time is needed, sometimes that time is forever. It's always sad to lose a friend, to lose one that is super close is the worst.
Yea you are right, like I’m 19 I don’t want to be just doing chores for someone else all of the time
I would sit down with her, give concrete examples of her poor communication, and tell how it makes you feel [upset/hurt/unsupported].
Either he’s using them on his sex toys, he’s a drug smuggler, or he’s well yano
im so happy to finally see a post on here where someone didn’t take some bullshit and took the right steps, you did great
Your bf doesn't want a child now. Even if it were only because he's emotionally unavailable, that's enough for him to know he's not ready for parenthood. Remember that it happens also in seasoned couples, with children: one can still not want a child. And a child has a right to fully committed parents. If you want to go ahead with the pregnancy, by all means do so, knowing that your bf might just provide financial support. It's also possible that an abortion might end the relationship, you might feel forced to go through it, doubt his commitment to you, etc. If that happens, like it often does after a miscarriage or the loss of a child, it's sad, but it's what it is
I didn't say abandon. He actually needs to focus on healing.