Yeah, you never know…. maybe he's just afraid to tell you what's really on his mind.
I've seen guys being afraid of impregnating their partner and holding off sex for that reason. Maybe they don't trust the birth-control or aren't well educated about it.
I suppose I understood that wrong, however you ignored the important part of my comment about the hypocrisy. Also you say he has your love and support but he won't though, if we won't change you're breaking up right? I mean marriage seems important to you both so that would mean your relationship has no future?
This is all manipulative behavior. You tolerate imperfections or behaviors that are normal, but not to your taste. You are not required to tolerate toxic behavior aimed to manipulate you. You care about her then don't enable her. If you don't break up (easy way out) then straight up explain “i care about you, but I'm not playing these games.” Then disengage.
Wait. Are you saying that between him and his brother they collectively saved $300,000? If so, then it sounds like he is taking his half of the money. I understand if you are not comfortable, debt is restrictive. Perhaps he can invest a portion of the money in a business that will help him reach your goals as a couple.
The issue is his snoring, not you being a light sleeper.
He needs to see a sleep specialist, not just obese people have sleep apnea and until he sees a specialist, you can't rule that out. The specialist can and then they can help him find solutions to his snoring.
Make no mistake, his snoring is impacting his health long term. It creates a lot of health issues that people don't see till it's too late. He needs to address this now.
I'm a light sleeper, have insomnia which makes falling asleep very nude. I've worked on those things but I'm still a light sleeper for the most part. My husband snored and I was sleep deprived. I ended up blowing up at him which wasn't good for either of us.
He went to a specialist and now we are both sleeping well and happy. I did tell him that either he saw a doctor or that I would not be able to stay with him as it was impacting my life in a negative way.
Look up what sleep deprivation does to people, it's a literal torture method!
He needs to put his adult pants on and see a sleep specialist. Till then, he needs to understand and agree that you sleeping in a separate space is what's best for your health.
Right now he is putting his ego ahead of your health and financial situation. You can only mess up so often at work, have a sour attitude so long before they start to see you in a negative light and you will be the first on their minds to let go.
Put yourself first here. He needs to see a sleep specialist and be okay with you in a separate room for now. If he can't, then you need to be ready to leave. Don't put up with that.
If he loves you, he will want you to get good sleep.
You need a divorce and a vacation.
Yeah, you never know…. maybe he's just afraid to tell you what's really on his mind.
I've seen guys being afraid of impregnating their partner and holding off sex for that reason. Maybe they don't trust the birth-control or aren't well educated about it.
You can be heterosexual and not have children too if that was the case. So what is the definitive root.
I suppose I understood that wrong, however you ignored the important part of my comment about the hypocrisy. Also you say he has your love and support but he won't though, if we won't change you're breaking up right? I mean marriage seems important to you both so that would mean your relationship has no future?
I feel horrible for laughing the entire time I read this post, but he honestly needs to realize that this is actually hurting your feelings.
This is all manipulative behavior. You tolerate imperfections or behaviors that are normal, but not to your taste. You are not required to tolerate toxic behavior aimed to manipulate you. You care about her then don't enable her. If you don't break up (easy way out) then straight up explain “i care about you, but I'm not playing these games.” Then disengage.
I strongly recommend a couples therapist to help you guys navigate the issue.
Sook.
Can’t really be sure. He’s friendly with a lot of his coworkers
Wait. Are you saying that between him and his brother they collectively saved $300,000? If so, then it sounds like he is taking his half of the money. I understand if you are not comfortable, debt is restrictive. Perhaps he can invest a portion of the money in a business that will help him reach your goals as a couple.
The issue is his snoring, not you being a light sleeper.
He needs to see a sleep specialist, not just obese people have sleep apnea and until he sees a specialist, you can't rule that out. The specialist can and then they can help him find solutions to his snoring.
Make no mistake, his snoring is impacting his health long term. It creates a lot of health issues that people don't see till it's too late. He needs to address this now.
I'm a light sleeper, have insomnia which makes falling asleep very nude. I've worked on those things but I'm still a light sleeper for the most part. My husband snored and I was sleep deprived. I ended up blowing up at him which wasn't good for either of us.
He went to a specialist and now we are both sleeping well and happy. I did tell him that either he saw a doctor or that I would not be able to stay with him as it was impacting my life in a negative way.
Look up what sleep deprivation does to people, it's a literal torture method!
He needs to put his adult pants on and see a sleep specialist. Till then, he needs to understand and agree that you sleeping in a separate space is what's best for your health.
Right now he is putting his ego ahead of your health and financial situation. You can only mess up so often at work, have a sour attitude so long before they start to see you in a negative light and you will be the first on their minds to let go.
Put yourself first here. He needs to see a sleep specialist and be okay with you in a separate room for now. If he can't, then you need to be ready to leave. Don't put up with that.
If he loves you, he will want you to get good sleep.