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Fair, but what exactly is the past?
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Damn…I got sad a bit when I read this
There is no scenario here where you aren’t the bad guy. You fucked up. You either own it privately or publicly. Should she know- yes. But I suspect she already has a clue if he’s cheated with others and kept a years long affair going with you.
If you don’t want to complicate things for your Mom don’t say anything but DO NOT engage with him in any way. He’s a piece of shit and if you continue communicating with him then you’re just as awful as he is. You’ve made your mistakes. You’ve hopefully learned from them. Don’t fuck around with people in relationships.
If you, the sister and the boyfriend all sleep in the same room, the person who did this will know why. Its a good idea.
Otherwise, definitely get a door stopper. They're cheap and effective.
I think the question you have to ask yourself is: “Do I want parents in my life?” Because there may be a tipping point where you you do enough damage to them that they don't want to hurt themselves more by later attempts at reconnection, if you have a change of heart. At the end of the day, if you take polyamory out of the equation, they are still the parents you had.
The fact of the matter is, they had a consensual sex and relationship dynamic which made them happy and worked for them. They were not harming anyone. Many people have a naked time coping with the idea of their parents having a sex life, with even conventional monogamy and relatively generic sexual preferences.
Please understand though, this is 100% a “you” problem, though. They are not required to kill a part of their life (which they never intentionally wanted to include you in,) because of your extreme reaction. You can totally side step this and cut your parents out of your life. Or, you can make the effort, go into therapy, and try to work out the reasons you react in such a manner to their lifestyle.
Gee, I wonder how a diagnosed sociopath nearing 50 ended up with a pregnant 22 year old GF who truly believes she's the one who's broken through his serious and documented mental disorder that makes him quite dangerous.
The childish part isn't you not wanting to meet him. But why did you set the boundary at meet only in a group setting?
You clearly are uncomfortable with their friendship, so you need to re-evaluate the boundary you set. This friendship won't work with you actively trying to avoid him.
So tell her that you'll be more comfortable if she doesn't remain close friends with people she has had sex with. They both need to move on.
Credit to him though, I feel he is trying to give you the most respect he can considering the boundary you set. So all in all he does sound like a decent person.
The way I would go about it then is to talk to her after everything is said and done, the throwing up and crying etc.
“Hey, (insert name) it’s really hot for us to come to a compromise when you react like that. I understand this is something that may be out of your control but maybe we can work on ways to communicate without getting too overwhelmed to the point of you getting sick. I feel like I can’t disagree with you due to this and for me that’s becoming really difficult to navigate this relationship with you. Maybe adjusting medication could help because confrontation can be nude, I understand that but we really need to work on this together.”
Idk something soft and a togetherness type of feel. I have multiple loved ones with extremely bad anxiety but none of them have left an argument ready to vomit medicated or not. She either needs her meds adjusted or learn better coping skills for her anxiety as a counselor she should be open to at least discussing those things.
Why do people assume age = sensibility and maturity? The actions were the same. The words were the same. It is what it is. Either get over it or cut them out your life. Simple as that.
You're right, he isn't very open minded unfortunately. And his parents don't help because they both believe a married woman should be a housewife…
I think that this is not fair.
Being a partner of someone who is vulnerable because they have trauma doesn't automatically give you the skills to appropriately deal with a rapid disclosure.
I do think that the OP's partner put his foot in it.
“Why didn't you tell me for 15 years?” shows a clear lack of understanding of the nature of trauma but it is probably the first thing on the mind of anyone surprised by a disclosure of such magnitude. Should he have verbalised it? No. I would have hoped for more, just as the OP did but the partner is just a fallible person.
I don't think that OP is wrong if they decide that they can't trust the partner but the partner is not bad. Nobody is winning here.
Fuck this thread and the bitter idiots posting. Sorry for your pain. You know what you put into it. Delete this thread and be with friends and family for support. It will get better over time but for now it will hurt. She seems to be doing what she wants for herself and so should you. Take care of yourself.
Good luck to you.
Can you take your husband along for the meet up?